I was reticent to post. It’s not for attention, it’s not for a need of comfort. But, I do want to say something. For so many others. And for this conversation to continue in the ways each of us normalize sexual assault/harassment or become complicit. 6 yrs ago, sitting at a table full of individuals, mostly new friends, some old, a man did something to me that was humiliating. More than once. And more than one man at the table saw it. And did nothing. I tried to handle it quietly, because that is what we are supposed to do right? Not make a scene, be cool, be calm. I quietly got myself out of the situation. But he had already been so beyond inappropriate, touched me, and thought it was his right. I wasn’t wearing clothes “asking for it”. Which is beyond problematic. That statement is sickening. I brushed it off, didn’t tell anyone, said to let it go and pushed it far back in my mind. He was a prevalent journalist. Patriarchal society had imbedded itself— keep your head down. After all, this could have been so much worse. But you know what, I am so sick of this. I am so sick of all that African American women go through. Native American women. Puerto Rican women. These three cultures deal with rape in the US without the protection our white culture offers us. Children. Transgender, Homosexual assault. And more often than not, by straight white men. This isn’t a blame game. No one is saying that all white men are bad. But you know, when I confronted a male friend who was there, he got defensive. It’s simple. He saw the whole thing happen. And when I asked why he didn’t do anything. He said, there are so many other nuances to the stories. THERE ARE NO OTHER NUANCES TO A HUMAN’S STORY OF SEXUAL HARASSMENT OR ASSAULT. Are there women who extort. Yep. Just like there are men who extort. Or. Just like there are men who get away with this behavior EVERY, SINGLE, DAY. Just like how the female lawyer has to deal with rampant sexism in her field. Scientists. Techs. No woman is asking for this. No Transgender or Homosexual male or female is asking for this. No child is asking for this.
Sending love to all. #endpatriarchy #endrapeculture #metoo