I do and say embarrassing things sometimes . Things I wish I could rewind and say/do differently. Or I sometimes lose my patience and instead of asking God for help to respond kindly, let anger instead of love influence my words. I have made up a very usual skill called "The 5 Minute Rule" that I want to share with you for times mentioned above!
Basically, after saying/doing something you wish you hadn't, you ALLOW yourself to be frustrated, embarrassed, sad, or annoyed .... but only for 5 minutes. After that time has passed, you refuse to dwell on these feelings anymore. Entertaining those emotions for too long is not helpful.
After 5 minutes, look forward now and ask yourself some questions. "What can I learn from this? How can I do things differently next time? How can I make things right?"
Remember, everyone says silly things or mean things sometimes but not everyone has grace for themselves for being imperfect. Not everyone one intentionally reflects and looks for the learning opportunities in mistakes so they can do better next time. Strong people do though!
I used The 5 Minute Rule this week at work. I said something silly and it really helped me get on with my day to just let myself, for 5 minutes, be embarrassed and wish I could rewind life. Setting a time limit though helped me not replay the moment over and over in my head. After 5 minutes, I asked myself Iif this situation were to happen again, what would I say/do differently?" I also asked myself "Self, why did you say that?" And realized that at the time, it sounded like an okay thing to say and I didn't know what else to say since I had felt put on the spot. This realization helped me have grace, compassion and understanding for myself instead of beating myself up for saying something silly.
Try The 5 Minute Rule and experience the benefits for yourself! 😀