For this world to be a place I want my nieces to grow up I can’t just hope and pray for change but be active and bold myself...... Scarlett Johanasson said it best: "No more feeling guilty about hurting people’s feelings when something doesn’t feel right to me. I have made a promise to myself to be responsible for myself, that in order to trust my instincts, I must first respect them”
Continued: “I had many relationships, both personal and professional, where the power dynamic was so off that I had to create a narrative in which I was the “cool girl” who can hang in and hang out, and that sometimes meant compromising what felt right for me. And that seemed okay, compromising my voice and therefore allowing myself to be unseen and degraded, whether it was intended by the other party or not. Because it allowed me to have the approval that women are conditioned to need. I was coming from a place, like so many young women do, of feeling that my creative value and my professional value and my sexual value could only be measured by the approval and desirability of a man.Even if I had come from a household where the conversation about self-respect was prioritized, just being a woman stacked the cards against me, because for so many centuries, women have been taught to be polite, to please and to pander.
I want to move forward and, for me, moving forward means my daughter growing up in a world where she doesn’t have to be a victim of what has cruelly become the social norm. That she doesn’t have to fit into the bindings of the female condition. Time’s up on the female condition. Gender equality can’t just exist outside ourselves. It must exist within. We must take responsibility, not just for our actions, but for ourselves. We must make it our responsibility to feed our own healthy ego, to teach our children to exercise their own autonomy and ego-strength, by leading by example.” Scarlet Johansson