WOMBMAN- we bear children, have menstrual cycles, different anatomy and higher levels of estrogen and oxytocin. Women bond differently, select their mates differently and communicate differently. Women are women and not men, for a reason.
Nothing is going to change these truths no matter how much more ideologically equal we become. What might be a healthier approach as women is to embrace what makes us different rather than seeing these qualities as inherently problematic and weak. Often, we unconsciously disengage from what makes us more feminine in favor of masculine characteristics, or at least characteristics that are easily comprehendible by the masculine mindset- that make us “stronger” and more impenetrable within patriarchy. To play the boy’s game, you have to act like a boy, right? Successful business women often wear their masculinity proudly, as if it alone is what drove them to success.
Traditionally feminine traits are seen so negatively. We’re dismissed as being “crazy” when we’re emotional so we learn to adopt a more rational (masculine) approach. Let’s look at the root of the “craziness”- our hormones are rapidly cycling every month and that’s why we get emotional in the ways that we do, it’s not because we are neurologically damaged. Our instincts to nurture & be guided by that famous “feminine intuition” are seen as too soft & irrational and are instead replaced by a cutthroat, logical attitude. We’ve even learned to favor a physique that undercuts our own natural curves.
We have to examine who’s actually setting standards for what is an acceptable version of femininity. The patriarchy reaffirms this ideal of acceptable femininity to better conceptualize, understand, and control the fairer sex. By abiding by these standards that we don’t set, we’re automatically rejecting our own assets, all of which give us power (why do you think these qualities make men so uncomfortable? The more discomfort elicited, the closer we are to change). We need to set our own standard, one that is so true to femininity that it allows women to set the rules for the boy’s game instead of having to play in it when the rules are rigged against us...⬇️continued below