So, in the aftermath of the MeToo wave, here's an issue I recently encountered:
"I didn't post because I didn't think my case was serious enough compared to all the awful stories I've heard."
This just gets me. I've seen it in various places, in my feed and the comment sections on other pages, even newspapers. Sure, one doesn't have to post if one don't want to. But while I think it's thoughtful to not wanting to occupy any kind of imaginary space for someone who might be worse off and in need of attention, this kind of comparison is just one step from fueling the "how can you complain about...when..." arguments that are currently mushrooming up amongst the scorned people in the comments section (mostly men, but also the Swedish one-woman freak show #elisabethöglund.)
And that is exactly what keeps this kind of shitty thing alive: the thought that there is always someone worse off than you, so you should, in fact, consider yourself fortunate. Of course. The one who only experienced a catcall is better off than the one who got groped. And the one who got groped is luckier than the one who got raped. This is how normalization works.
See also: other fields of injustice and how to maintain them while the privileged get away with it.