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@Regrann from @dont_gaslight_me_bruh - Narcissistic supply is what 'feeds' a narcissist with the fuel they need to live and breathe.
Supply can be garnered publicly or in private, from both objects and people.
In the event of potential supply sources running low, a narcissist will often manufacture situations where they can quench their insatiable thirst for attention.
Expect them to stage random events, perhaps throw themselves grandiose parties for minor achievements, humble brag about themselves, or start an argument with a family member.
#dont_gaslight_me_bruh #woketonarcissism - #regrann

@Regrann from @frisco008_aka_scottsuperdad - @Regrann from @dont_gaslight_me_bruh - Attempting to stick up for yourself almost always causes an abusive incident to escalate when dealing with a narcissist or sociopath.
Not only that, trying to stand your ground is futile if there is one of you, outnumbered by several toxic narcissist groupies all piling onto you.
A personal example: I can remember feeling absolutely terrified as a scapegoat child/young adult growing up in a narcissistic home. If I dared to 'speak back' to unfair treatment, or horrific cruel verbal abuse, the situation would escalate to threats of violence, actual physical violence, or a tirade of further degrading and name calling.
Being on the receiving end of the narcissistic rage is brutal, they are relentless and potentially very dangerous.
Knowing I had to keep my mouth shut at home or else, I became very passive and just took it. I had no other choice. It's easy for others to think we could have prevented some of the abuse by sticking up for ourselves but as with all aspects of narcissistic abuse, unless you've been through it it's impossible to understand. #dont_gaslight_me_bruh #woketonarcissism #narcissisticrage #victimblaming - #regrann - #regrann

Gasps! Check out my friend's page @dont_gaslight_me_bruh - Stay woke! ๐Ÿ˜
When did you first realize the truth about what narcissistic personality disorder actually is? That it is in fact a serious personality disease, and not about 'self love' at all. It is self hate, and they are potentially very dangerous individuals. #amazedelmo #elmomeme #dont_gaslight_me_bruh #woketonarcissism

Give narcissists and other toxic people the boot.๐Ÿ‘ข
#dont_gaslight_me_bruh #woketonarcissism

Knowledge really is power so please learn everything you can about narcissistic abuse and you'll realize it was never your fault!
You're not crazy, you were abused and mind screwed by a very sick individual or individuals.
#dont_gaslight_me_bruh #woketonarcissism

It's always a sad day when you find out who your friends AREN'T.
Whether they knowingly take your abusers side, passively ride the fence, or perhaps start to distance themselves due to their own discomfort and awkwardness after hearing about your difficult situation - being betrayed or abandoned in your hour of need by someone you love or care about is always painful.
For those of you with empathic friends who didn't fade during hard times - you're truly blessed! โ˜บ๏ธ๐Ÿ’– #dont_gaslight_me_bruh #woketonarcissism

However they're phrased, narcissists and sociopaths use these hoovering messages in a desperate attempt to suck you back in for their much needed fix of narcissistic supply. Keep gray rocking these demons, or stay complete no contact if your situation allows it. #dont_gaslight_me_bruh #woketonarcissism #narcissisticsupply #hoovering

@Regrann from @dont_gaslight_me_bruh - It took me a long time to get my head around the fact that these sick individuals cannot feel the normal human emotions you and I experience.
They see their spouses, family members, children, friends, and even pets as nothing more than sources of narcissistic supply.
#dont_gaslight_me_bruh #woketonarcissism - #regrann

Many of us (myself included) are having to 'gray rock' or be in bare minimal contact with our narcs for various and sometimes complex reasons whilst wishing we could be 100% free of these poisonous reptiles.
Perhaps we have to communicate with our narcissistic family members a few times per year because they have some kind of hold over us.
Maybe some of you share children with your narcissist, and/or have a divorce pending.
Also a few of you might be stuck working in a toxic office environment whilst waiting to find a different job.
Please share how you cope with the unwanted but mandatory interactions, and also how you manage your anxiety/complex ptsd symptoms in anticipation of seeing or hearing from the narcissists.
#dont_gaslight_me_bruh #woketonarcissism

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They don't fool us! ๐Ÿ˜‰
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I've seen 'pseudomutuality' being discussed in the narcissistic abuse community a lot recently so decided to revive an old post I made on this topic.
The seemingly 'normal' family members in a narcissistic household will often have a load of dysfunction privately going on between themselves not even involving the main scapegoat.
This might include co-dependence, domestic violence, verbal abuse, and even 'sub scapegoating' someone else.
This is because narcissists and psychopaths thrive on conflict and bad feeling, therefore will be left with no choice other than to manufacture it amongst one another if the main scapegoat cuts off their main source of narcissistic supply by going no contact or 'gray rock.' The chief narcissist will turn on their enablers, flying monkeys, and yes - even the golden child on a dime.
Yet there will be an unspoken rule where everyone must pretend everything is fine to the outside world.
In fact the toxic family will often protest too much by hanging out excessively with one another then perhaps checking in/posting photos on social media for the world to see how 'normal and loving' they are together.
#dont_gaslight_me_bruh #woketonarcissism #dont_scapegoat_me_ma

It's always a sad day when you find out who your friends AREN'T.
Whether they knowingly take your abusers side, passively ride the fence, or perhaps start to distance themselves due to their own discomfort and awkwardness after hearing about your difficult situation - being betrayed or abandoned in your hour of need by someone you love or care about is always painful.
For those of you with empathic friends who didn't fade during hard times - you're truly blessed! โ˜บ๏ธ๐Ÿ’– #dont_gaslight_me_bruh #woketonarcissism

The other day I made a post about the forgiveness shaming BS that abuse survivors frequently have to deal with from those around them which adds yet another layer of abuse by further compounding existing trauma.
I emphatically agree with everything you have to say about the topic Lilly @healingcomplextraumaptsd - I've been victim shamed thousands of times!
Here's a brief personal example of this very thing that happened with someone I thought was a good friend.
So I started to open up to this person about the child abuse I'd endured at the hands of my narcissistic family, and how it was still ongoing to this day.
But instead of offering compassion, support, comfort or empathy - they aggressively steamed straight in and demanded to know 'well have you forgiven your family?', without even asking any details about what happened, nothing!
Instant shame shifting right there, and with zero interest in my well being!
They just wanted to silence me as a way of sparing themselves from an awkward moment.
Now despite being a seasoned 'victim blamed' abuse survivor at this point, I was still completely taken aback and didn't know how to respond to my pal.
I'm not saying everyone we know must sit for hours as we tell our upsetting stories, nor should we be tempted to overshare with those that don't 'get it' - but people could at least TRY to empathize - even for a brief moment - instead of shaming us about forgiveness as a way of
cowardly dodging the more uncomfortable topic of what the abuser did.
I've noticed a lot of the victim shamers turn out to be narcissists or flying monkeys themselves.
Lilly, your posts are a tremendous comfort to me, and extremely validating when the dreaded c-ptsd symptoms start up again.
Those of you reading this - I highly recommend following Lilly if you don't already. ๐Ÿ’–
#dont_gaslight_me_bruh

When the mask slips, they're showing you who they really are. ๐Ÿ˜‡๐ŸŽญ๐Ÿ‘ฟ #wolfinsheepsclothing #dont_gaslight_me_bruh #woketonarcissism #narcissisticabuse

Had to get this out there after yesterday's forgiveness discussion - I did try to make it as pithy as possible! ๐Ÿ˜‰
There is a huge difference between choosing not to forgive an abuser (which is perfectly okay!) and plotting revenge.
Narcissists are potentially very dangerous individuals who have zero qualms about sabotaging others at every opportunity.
They are capable of costing you your livelihood, reputation, friends, loved ones, and would even happily get you in trouble with the law via their egregious pathological lies.
So please put any righteous anger to more productive use and focus on looking after yourself. Keep well away from your abuser because no good can ever come from a confrontation or revenge.
If you have to interact with them, perhaps due to a pending divorce, or being stuck in the family narc vipers nest for now - please look into 'gray rock' which I highly recommend as a good alternative when you cannot avoid them completely.

#dont_gaslight_me_bruh #woketonarcissism

#Repost from the insightful @dont_gaslight_me_bruh Thank you for your work.
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When interacting with the dreaded Forgiveness Police, expect to be bombarded with statements of this ilk:
- Let it go!
- Oh not this again!
- If you don't forgive them God won't forgive you!
- Everyone has good in them!
- Hand it to the Lord!
- Just forget about it!
- You're so negative!
- This is all you ever talk about!
- Move on!
- But it happened years ago!
- Let's talk about a more positive topic!
- You can't get better if you won't forgive!
- You hold grudges!

In a nutshell, these toxic people take the focus well away from an abusers wrongdoing, and instead give you the third degree for being 'hateful' and 'unforgiving'. This abhorrent dictating is often done in a religious context but not always.
Survivors of such heinous, intentional, ongoing, calculated, and often criminal abuse should never be shamed into forgiveness - aren't we dealing with enough already?! We don't need yet another job!
Sadly I've even seen a significant minority of survivors of narcissistic abuse shame other survivors over the forgiveness topic.
Personally I think if forgiveness helps you on your healing journey then great, but it cannot be forced and is counter productive to do so because it adds yet another layer of abuse to those already enduring or recovering from abuse and all that goes with it.
Also it goes without saying that if you choose to forgive, please stay vigilant and NEVER EVER go back to your abuser because narcissists and other abusers honestly have the potential to turn dangerous.

I'd also like to mention this - for those of you who are believers, please be assured that even the Bible mentions several times that forgiveness without repentance is not possible and should actually be avoided, so please do not listen to people from church who may shame you.
#dont_gaslight_me_bruh #woketonarcissism #๐Ÿ‘ฎ๐Ÿป๐Ÿ‘ฎ๐Ÿผโ€โ™€๏ธ

When interacting with the dreaded Forgiveness Police, expect to be bombarded with statements of this ilk:
- Let it go!
- Oh not this again!
- If you don't forgive them God won't forgive you!
- Everyone has good in them!
- Hand it to the Lord!
- Just forget about it!
- You're so negative!
- This is all you ever talk about!
- Move on!
- But it happened years ago!
- Let's talk about a more positive topic!
- You can't get better if you won't forgive!
- You hold grudges!

In a nutshell, these toxic people take the focus well away from an abusers wrongdoing, and instead give you the third degree for being 'hateful' and 'unforgiving'. This abhorrent dictating is often done in a religious context but not always.
Survivors of such heinous, intentional, ongoing, calculated, and often criminal abuse should never be shamed into forgiveness - aren't we dealing with enough already?! We don't need yet another job!
Sadly I've even seen a significant minority of survivors of narcissistic abuse shame other survivors over the forgiveness topic.
Personally I think if forgiveness helps you on your healing journey then great, but it cannot be forced and is counter productive to do so because it adds yet another layer of abuse to those already enduring or recovering from abuse and all that goes with it.
Also it goes without saying that if you choose to forgive, please stay vigilant and NEVER EVER go back to your abuser because narcissists and other abusers honestly have the potential to turn dangerous.

I'd also like to mention this - for those of you who are believers, please be assured that even the Bible mentions several times that forgiveness without repentance is not possible and should actually be avoided, so please do not listen to people from church who may shame you.
#dont_gaslight_me_bruh #woketonarcissism #๐Ÿ‘ฎ๐Ÿป๐Ÿ‘ฎ๐Ÿผโ€โ™€๏ธ

Hoovering is typically done after a long periodย of no contact between the victim and the abuser. In an attempt to regain control over their victims, hoovering abusers will use manipulation tactics that target their victimโ€™s soft spots and emotional vulnerabilities. If they are successful, the hoovering abuser will use their victim until they are bored of them and discard of them once again #dont_gaslight_me_bruh #hoovering #narzisstischermissbrauch #narzissmus #gaslightning #abuse

#Repost @dont_gaslight_me_bruh
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We all have shortcomings, we are only human.
However an abuser will leverage your flaws (whether real, exaggerated, or totally fabricated by them) to make you feel worthless and deserving of their horrific abuse. #dont_gaslight_me_bruh
Borrowed from @shannonthomas

We all have shortcomings, and who hasn't made silly mistakes in our lives? After all - we are only human.
However an abuser will leverage your flaws (whether real, exaggerated, or totally fabricated by them) to make you feel worthless and deserving of their horrific abuse. #dont_gaslight_me_bruh
Borrowed from @shannonthomas

The Vintage Series collaboration by @theblacksheepsurvives and @dont_gaslight_me_bruh
Part 3- Baiting

Narcissists can garner mammoth amounts of narcissistic supply on demand via calculatedly baiting their targets - and they know exactly which buttons to press!

Abusers rejoice in manufacturing bad feeling - they will get off on your tears, anger, frustration, humiliation, or perhaps seeing you suddenly going quiet - it's what gives these sickos their potent hit of fuel.

They especially love setting you up to react in front of others (flying monkeys, their cronies, family members - or even a therapist) to 'prove' how 'awful' you are, but if an impromptu opportunity to bait presents itself when you're alone with the narc they'll take it.

These monsters are extremely stealth at how they rig situations to somehow portray themselves as the innocent party, while the true victim ends up looking like the unhinged troublemaker causing the issue.
As if that wasn't enough the narcissist can garner bonus supply from playing the martyr, obtaining sympathy from their mob for 'all they must have to put up with'. Baiting methods can include:
- Bringing up something negative or embarrassing about you that may have a grain of truth to make it seem plausible.
- Telling a complete lie about you.
- Bringing up a controversial or polarizing topic that they know you're passionate about.
- Degrading you under their breath.
- Giving you a filthy look across the room.
- Re-traumatizing you about a previous abuse incident that only you know about, thus triggering a horrific C-PTSD reaction as you're forced to re-live the unresolved past incident.

The narcissist will feign innocence whilst inflicting torture on the scapegoat and garnering sadistic pleasure from the victim's pain.

Sometimes they will even bait a whole bunch of people at once by bringing up polarizing topics like politics in a group setting such as a family dinner, causing everybody to argue with one another. Meanwhile they just 'innocently' sit back with the popcorn, smirking as they get their rocks off on the manufactured chaos unfolding in front of them.

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Hope everyone has had a wonderful Labor Day Weekend!
Peace and love from #dont_gaslight_me_bruh ๐Ÿ–โ˜€๏ธ #labordayweekend #laborday2017

Money, gifts, and favors are some of the most powerful manipulation tools in the narcissist's arsenal.
Whether you are waiting to go no contact, or you have already implemented the no contact or gray rock boundary - please don't be tempted by their 'carrot' thinking it means they've changed or that they're sorry.
Mark my words it's nothing more than a ruse to pull you back into the abuse cycle so please continue ignoring them!
If you accept their offer, they will give you the run around watching with delight and garnering mammoth amounts of narcissistic supply as you chase something that isn't there - and even if the offer turns out not to be fictitious it will have strings attached.
An abuser will utilize blackmail and have you over a barrel if you accept their favors, it's never worth it so steer clear!
Remember, they're like a salesman without a product! ๐Ÿฅ•
*EDITED TO ADD - I've just noticed a cringeworthy amount of 'a' in the first paragraph of this meme - now it's bugging me how it doesn't read well. Thought I'd proof read it enough times but oh well - I must be tired! ๐Ÿฅ•
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I know many of you are currently enduring or have previously worked in a toxic environment so I've decided to make a series of posts on this important but seldom addressed aspect of narcissistic abuse.
Narcissism and bullying in the workplace should be taken extremely seriously, because if you are dealing with one or more toxic individuals in the office not only will the persistent ongoing abuse affect you in the usual traumatizing ways, but short of you leaving the company there is no escape from them.

In a workplace environment narcissists are ruthless and devious liars who will throw you under the bus in a heartbeat - with or without a hidden motive - after pretending to be your friend.
They can even cost you your livelihood and reputation by setting you up to be fired - I know this to be factual having chatted with some of you about this terrible situation.
I personally have also learned the hard way that oversharing with people in work is a huge mistake that usually backfires, so keep your guard up.
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