Be careful who you trust with your mental health.
If you've ever attempted therapy during or after narcissistic abuse, you may have realized how shockingly little the psychotherapy world seems to know about this surprisingly common abuse.
Finding a therapist who truly understands the seriousness of NPD, as well as being extensively knowledgeable about the devastating effects this relentless and repetitive hidden abuse has on victims (C-PTSD/PTSD) is vital.
And sorry to sound like a broken record but I’ve got to get this through - if you have a narcissistic spouse or lover, NEVER EVER GO TO COUPLES THERAPY WITH THE ABUSER! ⚠️
These types can con absolutely anyone, even psychiatrists. They’re able to deceive professionals with their facade in exactly the same way they convince family, friends and business associates that they're wonderful people. Therapists who really ‘get’ narcissism would never even suggest bringing your abuser, it’s a mammoth red flag if they suggest ‘working together to patch things up between you.’ 🤯
The same applies to bringing abusive family members too, NEVER DO IT! ⚠️
On a lighter note, here are some ‘epic therapy fails’ I'd like to share with you all - some are my own experiences, others happened to a friend:
1. After disclosing a major traumatic abuse incident, the therapist responded with 'but all families have arguments!'
2. In the midst of a talk about depression, therapist said 'I feel depressed today too!'
3. Therapist fell asleep!
4. Therapist could never remember ANYTHING about a MAJOR abuse backstory. All sessions were spent recapping the story from scratch.
5. *No tissues in the room*
6. Explaining a certain narcissist’s silent treatment was met with 'well it sounds like he respects your boundaries!'
7. 'But only 0.00001% of the general population are sociopaths'.
8. Therapist told a pal to get back into a very toxic on/off relationship!
9. 'Oh don't be stupid, of course your (narc!) mother loves you!'
10. 'I can pass on your phone number to another client of mine, he's really nice, I think you two would hit it off!'
11. 'It's not really abuse, it's the way you're perceiving things.’