How do I love thee (5/5)
His love language might have needed to change and grow but the way KS loved ET was perfect from the beginning.
It was a love that was nurturing. KS took ET in, made sure she "eat well, live well, learn well" even if without him. He helped her to achieve her dream (either paying for her college tuition or sponsoring her radio program). He was supportive of what she loved doing (listening to her program). He was proud of her achievement ("So you achieved your dream. I am quite proud of you").
One of Goblin's most important success factors was how well writer Kim developed her characters, most of all, of course, Kim Shin. She invested the time to tell his story of loyalty, bravery, determination for righteousness, generosity and kindness. She also painstakingly drew up a picture of him as a flawed human: stubborn, childish, petty, competitive, jealous, possessive and at times controlling.
But despite being this larger than life character, KS never dictated ET's life. She was free to do what she liked, free to reach her own potential and he was always there to support and cheer her on. She was free in the safe harbour of his love. He was protective but never smothering, supportive but never controlling.
He made a promise to never let go of her hands and he kept it. His love, determination, honour transcended heavens, earth and nothingness. His loyalty extended not only through the width of space but also the length of time.
I have sometimes joked that KS never gave ET an engagement ring, given he could afford the biggest "rock". But he had already given her his loyal nurturing love which was as reliable as a rock that she could lean or rest on for lifetimes.
I recently read Anna Dostoyevsky’s memoir of her spectacular marriage to one of the best writers, Fyodor Dostoyevsky, who wrote his best novel Crime and Punishment during their time together. I love how she described their love and found that the words she used also described KS' love to ET amazingly accurately.
It was indeed a love that was as steady and solid as a rock, that "would stand as a firm wall", that "wont let you fall" and "it gives warmth" ❤️.