I was just scrolling my feed quick while I toss back my pre-workout drink & happened upon a post- a mom blogger page that I follow & the topic was stop telling me to take time for self care.
This made me stop & think cause 🙋🏼♀️ here I am over here trying to plead with people to exercise & rest & do things that help you to take care of yourself mentally & physically. So yes... I think- probably too much - about things I see & how does this reflect what I should consider, change, be better about etc. .
This is what occurred to me. I have had a line of work that allowed me to be home during the day while my kids were growing up & were not in school. My kids are 2 years and 3 years apart. When my daughter was 5, I had a 3 yo and a newborn. I get it... I could never get anywhere on time, I never got laundry done, dishes done. I never fed myself, I was feeding babies & changing diapers. Would family help? Sure. But quite honestly you just want to have your own space and do it on your own cause it’s your life.
It’s a season - it’s a tough one. Potty training, dogs pooping and peeing in the house, projectile vomit from infants, teething, acid reflux non-sleeping crying babies, trying to go to dinner but the diaper leaks all over your lap, your breasts leak when your breast feeding & you’re just trying to shop for something that fits your post partum new waistline... it’s a season. .
But you get through it & they learn to wipe their own noses and booties. They dress themselves, they choose their styles, they work to develop their identity ... and part of that will be a reflection of who you were and are to them. And then they’ll be out of the house and you are home all day everyday ... and then... new season.
Who are you? Who will you be? How do you feel now? It’s a new empty, lonely, a new journey of discovery. You are still a mom but now how are you this new level of momhood. Trust me - at SOME POINT you are going to need to learn how to take care of yourself. .
Full disclosure - I haven’t read the blog yet - I will - these were just my initial raw thoughts and feelings and I had to get them out. Moms, dads... some how, some time... just don’t ⤵️⤵️⤵️