Im honoured to have created this illustration for the incredibly inspirational and important @estherperelofficial about relationship accountability. If you don’t know Esther’s work check her out now. Full post below @get_repost
From the shifting landscape of intimate relationships comes a new vocabulary for describing a wide range of relational experiences. Rejection has always been a part of the landscape. But new words like ghosting, icing, and simmering describe far more ambiguous encounters.
These tactics of maintaining unclear relationships and prolonging break-ups all produce what I call stable ambiguity; too afraid to be alone, but unwilling to fully engage in intimacy building — a holding pattern that affirms the undefined nature of the relationship, which has a mix of comforting consistency AND the freedom of blurred lines.
In this relationship culture, expectations and trust are in constant question. The state of stable ambiguity inevitably creates an atmosphere where at least one person feels lingering uncertainty, and neither person feels truly appreciated or nurtured. We do this at the expense of our emotional health, and the emotional health of others.
Thank you, @sarahbeeby for this beautiful illustrative response to the theme of ambiguity.
How have you experienced these terms: ghosting, simmering, and icing? How have they made you feel?
Definitions of these new terms can be found on today’s Stories, or on my blog: estherperel.com/relationship-accountability