This is very true. And disturbing. Somewhere along the line, this unhealthy way of thinking crept in the door. It was not just a passive trend of minimising the importance of love (as distinguished from lust) and relegating it to a backseat in a marriage, it was actively "cringing" at the concept as @yasminmogahed puts it. This kind of mindset is basically an attack against the family, and by extension, wider society. Without love you will have serious family dysfunction. Stigmatizing divorce (which is perfectly halal) means the family members are forced to accept their miserable situation and dysfunction is compounded. You've basically destroyed the next generation while they're in their cribs and taken away opportunities for healing while the children continue to grow up in the same toxic environment.
If someone wanted to destroy a nation, this would be one of the best ways to go about it. Not really getting political but we really could get political here (maybe I'll expand on another post). On a positive note, there does seem to be a tide pushing back against this way of thinking, especially the more knowledgeable people become about the original teachings.
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