i went to a lecture recently in which the speaker equated a muslim woman taking off her hijab to someone consuming interest on money. it's safe to say my blood was boiling and i left feeling exactly the opposite of how one is supposed to feel when departing the masjid. as my 10-year hijabiversary approaches, i almost can not recognize myself now from the girl i was when i first made the choice to don the hijab permanently. one conclusion has remained the same however, that hijab is extremely difficult and that every muhajjaba wrestles with it in her own way. that being said, i am sick and tired of hearing *white-passing* male scholars attempt to make women feel less muslim if they don't wear the hijab or if they choose to take it off. i love the concept of the hijab but let's take a step back and remember that unlike something extremely clear cut in the qur'an/sunnah such as establishing prayer and fasting in ramadan, hijab is a gray area (despite what your favorite sheikh will tell you) and it has evolved drastically throughout the centuries and by region. not wearing hijab does not take one outside the fold of islam. it is not a pillar of islam. this piece of cloth has sadly evolved to become a primary marker of one's religiosity, which is extremely superficial and counterproductive to what the hijab represents in the first place. hijab has come to mean something different to everyone. so if you don't wear a hijab, stop telling me how and when to wear mine.