What if we look at heartbreak as an opportunity for us to find the ways to give ourselves what others couldn't.
I hear so many people say that what "fixes" a broken heart is finding someone new. We're often so quick to fill that space so that the pain and hurt we're experiencing is more easily avoided.
We have to stop avoiding.
Avoidance is faking it. It's pretending that we're okay when we are not. It's maybe useful and purposeful at times, but it is not healing.
Heartbreak stops being heartbreak when it starts being our healing. It stops being heartbreak when it starts being a lesson, our call to action, or our liberation.
Heartbreak is only heartbreak when we allow ourselves to stay stuck in that space. The second it becomes something else it can no longer be labeled just heartbreak. This is not to suggest that we don't hurt, feel sad or confused, or still have tough days, weeks, or months. But it does shift the control it has over us. When we pay attention and lean in, we give ourselves the opportunity to be heard and seen by ourselves. We give ourselves the opportunity to do for ourselves what others couldn't. We learn to honor our voice, set boundaries, listen closely, and be the person we always needed.
Redefine your heartbreak. Go. 👇🏼#mindfulmft