It's no secret that text messaging has become the social norm for communicating. Its ease of use with hardly any effort allows us to be in touch with anyone from anywhere at any time. We text because the world we live in says text messaging with others, including the opposite sex, is perfectly acceptable communication.
I cannot tell you how many times I’ve heard or researched for my book stories of committed men and women texting outside their relationship with the opposite sex that ended in cheating. Most often texting was innocent in nature; cheating was never in sight. They largely discussed topics about their kids’ school or their partner's new job, however, quickly transitioning to, for instance, a conversation about how their girl doesn’t want to talk about their feelings, and they do, or that they noticed the other at the gym, commenting on how they're attracted to their physical appearance. These disclosures most often lead to emotional confiding and discussions of sexual fantasies. In nearly every cheating account I've studied or researched myself, what seems to occur in all of these participants' accounts, are descriptions of communication blind-spots: that is, negative relationship consequences based on emotional and/or sexual confiding through text-messaging with the opposite sex that seem to come out of nowhere.