Today would have been my mom’s 56th birthday. She passed away almost ten years ago in May of 2007.
She and I had hard relationship, and it was largely because of decisions she made. She had a long history with drugs and that caused me a lot of hardship and heartache. I bore a lot of resentment for her because of these things, especially during those last few years of her life.
I’m older now, and I’ve had nearly a decade to reflect on it all, there’s no room in my heart or mind for anger anymore.
I think by now most of you know I’ve got my first comic book out right now. It’s a collection of short stories about the grieving process called GRIEF. To say that this book is the greatest thing I’ve ever done with my life would be an understatement.
Writing the book was a huge cathartic act that brought the saga of my relationship with my mom to a happy end. Reading over the book these last few weeks, I’ve realized how much of her is on each and every page. My creativity is a product of having known her.
She wasn’t a fantastic person, but she was a great mother—the kind who’d tell her vegetable-adverse son that Brussels sprouts were Martian heads and tell him that he had to eat as many as he could to stop the invasion.
She was the kind of parent I want to be—the kind that invites and incites wonder in a child.
GRIEF would not exist without Sue, and neither would I, and for both, I am eternally grateful for my mother.
I miss her very much, and I know that she’s out there somewhere and that she’s proud of me.
At the back of GRIEF, I included a five page essay I wrote that tells the story my mother and me in more detail. It’s a reflection of the power of grieving and the power of hope. If you haven’t yet, check out GRIEF at the link below, and if you’ve got it to spare, you can back the project for a little as $1.
GRIEF is my love letter to my mother, but it’s also a book for anyone who’s ever struggled. I think it’s an important book, and I’d love for its message to reach as many people as possible in this last week of the campaign. GRIEF is on Kickstarter until May 4th. Link in my bio.