Chances are you choose to allow yourself to be affected by others' #behavior toward you. Also, chances are you want to impact how other's behave toward you.
We are all human. We all have egos and, of course, it doesn't feel good when things don't either go the way we want or we think we're being treated unfairly by someone else's behavior. We may feel rejected. We may feel unimportant. We may feel disrespected. We may feel #angry.
What It all comes down to is #emotionalmanipulation. People try to do it to us and we try to do it to others. We may not choose to do it consciously, mind you, but we do it.
We cannot #control another person's #thoughts, #feelings, or #actions. And another person cannot control our thoughts, feelings, or actions (unless we allow them to). Could it be that their behavior is their behavior? Could it be that their behavior is how they #choose to #react? Choose to #behave? Could it be that their behavior is all about them and not us?
Actually, it's our thoughts about their behavior that make their behavior a #problem for us, and our feelings are a direct result of the thoughts we choose.
So... can you choose to let that other person be who they are? Can you choose to allow that person to feel what he/she feels? After all, you know the rule... if he/she is acting or behaving in a certain way, it's his/her feelings that are driving his/her behavior, which is tied to a thought he/she is having... and that's about him/her, not YOU!
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