Truthfully, I want my haters to know they're important to me.
I once read a meme that said, "If you can't handle criticism, then you're not ready for success.". At the time of first reading that, I plainly wasn't ready for the BIG success I desired and felt justified in having. It was the truth. I wasn't ready to be bombarded with criticism.
My haters highlighted my false and misplaced pride and success. Some of my pride and success was earned for sure, but some of it also wasn't earned or deserved.
My friends, family, and clients I'd see on a face to face basis, would naturally feel pressured to endorse me, as they had vested interest in me.
Non-friends, family, and clients however, were a different game altogether. They didn't have vested interest in me, and had nothing to lose in how they perceived and provided feedback about me.
For a long time, I ended up letting being criticized, and hated on, get to the best of me and scare me to my very core, which ended up affecting my entire life.
My life fell apart. I fell hard. My thought errors became magnified, highlighted, and crippling, to the point of self-medicating with drugs and alcohol.
For a long time, I became accustomed and comfortable in believing I was better than I actually was, until my perceived and/or real haters pointed out my perceived and/or real flaws.
I was disillusioned and had a distorted sense of reality and success.
Over the past more than 2 years now, I've regained so much empowerment, over my emotions, and my responses to real and/or perceived haters.
I've corrected so many actual flaws, and had the benefit of attention drawn to me by my perceived and/or real flaws made by others, meaning what is someone elses trash is someone elses gold mine.
I've become a stronger, better, more useful, enjoyable person with a more real and less distorted perspective of myself because of my haters. Its called metacognition, knowing my strengths, weaknesses, knowing what works for me and doesn't.
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