Do you know what this picture represents? Forgiveness and friendship. Let me explain.... Cheryl P RN and I became friends during our Taglit-Birthright Israel trip in Dec 1998. Like most people on the trip, we quickly bonded. She even got to see the Mama Hen side of me when she got sick. (SN: One of my nicknames used to be "Mother," b/c of my maternal instinct.) 17 years ago, we became roommates, and unfortunately, lived up to the adage of "never become roommates with your friends." I won't go into details, other than to say that we had very different lifestyles. By the time the lease ended, so had our friendship.
Fast forward to Yom Kippur 2000. One of the themes of Yom Kippur is forgiveness, and I really struggled with forgiving Cheryl. Fortunately, another college friend, Juan C. Perez, helped me overcome that. While I forgave her, and wished her no ill will, I was also OK with keeping her out of my life.
Fast forward again to 2009, when, through mutual friends, I happened to see she was on Facebook. I will admit, I debated about whether or not I wanted to let her back into my life. I peeped her page, and she seemed more like the Cheryl I had initially become friends with. I also realized that I had truly forgiven her, so it seemed silly to not reach out. We actually met up with each other when she visited SoFL in 2009 (2010?) and it was as if no time had passed by. Over the years, we kept in touch through Facebook.
Last week, I found out that she'd be in the area. I reached out to see if we'd be able to meet up. We got to meet up last night. I drove to Sunrise (about an hour from me) to socialize and watch her sing with some friends of hers. (They were really awesome!) What meant a lot to me is that she made plans to see me. When she needed to change them, she didn't just cancel, she rescheduled. I'm so glad that I got to see her, and look forward to seing her on subsequent visits to the area.
If someone wants to see you, they will make the time to do so. It's so easy to show someone that you care. I may not always be the best at keeping in touch with people, but I make time for the people who mean a lot to me.