Dread leaves little room for a positive experience. It ensures that you will feel stuck. You will feel annoyed, resentful, and worn out by the time you've made it through the thing you were dreading.
I've had a number of health challenges in my life and a big one was discovering I had over ten food allergies. This means that I cook all of my own food. To make things easier, I cook large batches of basics that I can freeze and thaw to eat throughout the week. It takes a lot of time and energy and honestly, sometimes I just dread the idea of spending hours in the kitchen prepping and cooking my food.
I caught myself with this feeling of dread and thought, 'What am I doing? There's no way this will ever feel easy or good if I'm dreading it!' So, I took a moment to think of other feelings I have about cooking my food and this is what I got:
I am grateful I get to prepare my own food that keeps me healthy.
I'm grateful that I know how to keep myself healthy.
I'm so grateful that I can eat food that nourishes my body instead of making it ill.
I took those genuine feelings and added in the reframe that I could do it all with ease.
I'm preparing this food with ease. I'm grateful to be cooking this food with ease.
Was I still physically tired from prepping and cooking food? This time, yes. But, I felt lighter inside, with an expanded and grateful heart. There were plenty of times in my health journey that I would have jumped with joy if I had known that cooking my own food was part of the answer to my debilitating fatigue and brain fog. I handed back the burden of viewing prep work and cooking as drudgery, as something that's a chore that I have to do, and took back the joy I genuinely have in being able to live in a way that supports my health and well-being. And I've got to say, that felt pretty amazing.
The key to the reframe is this, focus on what you are genuinely grateful for. Empty platitudes about what you think you should be grateful for will only leave you feeling fake and resentful.
Have you had a similar experience? Is there something you can stop dreading? Let me know below!
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