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I found this amazing book about men not being afraid to show their true feelings of vulnerability @oddmanoutbook #breakthevow It’s such a powerful message that all men need to hear and act on if we are to change the dreadful suicide statistics amongst men. #mensmentalhealth #menshealth #malesuicide #mensfeelings #mentalhealth

Great post - check out Nige's book #oddmanoutbook Repost from @odd_man_out_book using @RepostRegramApp - I am deeply saddened by Linkin Park lead singer Chester Bennington’s suicide. ⠀

One thing Chester’s death highlights is that things can often look okay on the outside even when they are not on the inside.⠀

Chester’s death communicates something critical about what it is like to be a man today. The vow of male silence makes it virtually impossible for us men to communicate our struggle. For some men, our suffering is so buried that the people closest to us aren't aware of it. Sometimes, we are not even aware of it ourselves. ⠀

For too many men, death by suicide is in some way preferable to breaking the vow of male silence and talking about our pain, because we fear being misunderstood and perceived as weak or less of a man, our suffering brushed aside by people too busy to notice that we are actually desperate. ⠀

Incidentally, Chester wasn’t the only man to take his life yesterday. In the USA an average of 85 men kill themselves every day. Many if not most of these suicides are a complete shock to their family and friends because on the outside everything appears okay. ⠀

So, if you are struggling today, or close to the edge, don’t lose hope, take a risk, reach out and call the Samaritans because your heart matters bro. ⠀

And to anyone coping with the loss of a loved one through suicide, including Chester’s family and friends, we are sending all our love to you at this time of utter heartbreak and devastation. There are no words that can comfort you right now, so simply know that the hearts of millions are with you. ⠀

It's time to break the vow of male silence.⠀
Spread the word. ⠀
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#oddmanoutbook #breakthevow #mindfulness #wakeup #suicideawareness #brotherhood #omerta #mentalillness #calmzone#mensmentalhealth #maledepression#anxiety #vulnerability #realmencry#allman#malesuicide#chesterbennington#linkinpark

There was a boy in the year above me at school who was pals with my friend's brother. They used to listen to rock 'n' roll on school lunch break. One time I remember laughing as this guy and his mates bopped to the Stray Cats. Later that same week, he hung himself in the loft while listening to an Elvis record. He was 14 years old.⠀

It was so weird; one minute he was jiving on the garage roof and the next minute he was dead.⠀

Everyone was shocked, as they tried to make sense of what had happened in the playground:⠀

"Such a tragic loss."⠀
"He was so young."⠀
"He seemed so happy."⠀
"What a waste of life."⠀

But it wasn’t long before the dust awkwardly settled and his name was never mentioned again. It was like the boy who had ended his life had moved to another planet. ⠀

Sadly, nobody had the nerve to stick around long enough to ask the important questions that would take the conversation deeper, questions like:⠀

What was happening in this boy's life beyond the painted smile?⠀
What was he really feeling on the inside?⠀
What was he forbidden from expressing?⠀

Here’s the thing: around 95% of people who commit suicide are experiencing some kind of depression at the time of their suicide – an illness which I believe is brought about by the loneliness that comes with upholding the vow of male silence. ⠀

Boys, like men, need a space to talk and to express their emotions. We're quick to attribute male youth suicide to bullying, exam pressure or peer pressure but relatively few of us are addressing the issue that boys have very few spaces available to talk about what's really happening for them. ⠀

As a result, male suicide is running rampant – it is the third leading cause of death in youth aged 10 to 24 – around 80% of those deaths are by males. This is an issue that we can't continue to ignore, because closing our eyes won’t make the problem go away. Three or more boys will take their own lives today.⠀
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It's time to break the vow of male silence.⠀
Spread the word.⠀

#oddmanoutbook #breakthevow #mindfulness #wakeup #suicideawareness #brotherhood #omerta #mentalillness #calmzone#mensmentalhealth #maledepression#anxiety #vulnerability #realmencry#allm

When I was about 14 years old a boy hanged himself from a tree in the local cemetery. Instead of talking about it the local council chopped down the tree and everyone silently agreed never to mention it again. ⠀
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It's time to break the vow of male silence.⠀
Spread the word.⠀

#oddmanoutbook #breakthevow #mindfulness #wakeup #suicideawareness #brotherhood #omerta #mentalillness #calmzone#mensmentalhealth #maledepression#anxiety #vulnerability #realmencry#allman

Of all the things love should do. Love shouldn't #captionthis #breakthevow #relationshipgoals #movies #motivationmonday

Wise words for anyone going against the grain, trying to achieve the seemingly impossible, or standing for something important. If you meet opposition, in the world or in your own mind, remember these wise words. You are not alone. 🙏 #wisdom #wednesdaywisdom #gandhi #change #breakthevow #yougotthis

What a weekend! We gave our first ever TEDx talk (may there be more in the future!) and it was... scary, exhilarating, vulnerable and powerful. Sharing my story in front of people feels risky - it's one thing for someone to read it in a book. It's another to say it live in a room. But I did and I'm proud, not just of me but of us. We know the message we share is gritty and hard to hear in places. And we truly believe it can help. Our goal is to be part of the movement that eradicates male suicide by providing permission and spaces for boys and men to talk and feel. Here's to breaking the vow.
It's time to break the vow of male silence.
Join the movement.
Spread the word.
Thanks to Emma for the photo and to @tedxmargate for the opportunity and the platform.
#breakthevow #malesuicide #mentalhealth #timetotalk #timetofeel #oddmanoutbook

We had a great day at the brilliant @soulcircusfestival yesterday (thanks Roman and Ella for organising such a brilliant festival).
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I led a men's group (without Ell, obviously 😉), and then we gave a joint interview-style talk about breaking the vow of male silence. .
It was a real pleasure to meet Will Young and give him a copy of the book. He is doing amazing work breaking the vow in his own life and raising awareness around #mentalhealth. We loved his talk about the art of listening (head over to our Twitter to see many nuggets of wisdom from him).
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We're scheming to get Nige on Will's highly regarded podcast, Homo Sapiens later this year (Will doesn't know about this yet but he will soon 😂).
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We are so excited to see so many men doing this groundbreaking work. The movement has begun! #breakthevow
Spread the word. .
#masculinity #listening #willyoung #runawaytothecircus #mentalhealthawareness #men #yogafestival #oddmanout #oddmanoutbook

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Head over to breakthevow.com to grab a copy of the groundbreaking book Odd Man Out: Breaking the Vow of Male Silence. ⠀
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It's time to break the vow of male silence.⠀
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When you choose comfort over courage, you unconsciously agree to go about your day like your heart doesn't matter. ⠀

Breaking the vow of male silence means mustering up the courage to say fuck it to staying comfortable. It means allowing ourselves to get messy. It means reclaiming your right to be fully human in every sense of the word.⠀
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When a boy is indoctrinated into the vow of male silence he is expected to erase any and all emotions that convey vulnerability. ⠀⠀
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He is bullied and brainwashed into believing that he has toughen up. That any emotions other than anger are a sign of weakness - a threat to the status quo. ⠀ ⠀⠀
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There is another way, one that goes against the current thinking of the world. ⠀⠀
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Every man is now being called to find a new definition of manhood. To break the vow of male silence in his own life and reclaim those parts of himself that he erased in an attempt to fit in. ⠀⠀
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Only then will he be able to express his right to be FULLY human- to open up and feel - to cry without having to apologise. To be fully alive in every area of his life. To be a living, breathing, expression of love. ⠀
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Contrary to popular belief that is what being a REAL man is all about.⠀⠀
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To grab a copy of this powerful book head over to breakthevow.com⠀
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It's time to break the vow of male silence.⠀
Join the movement.⠀
Spread the word. ⠀
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#oddmanoutbook #breakthevow #mask#archetype #book #reading#mindfulness #wakeup #positivity#suicideawareness #brotherhood #omerta#omertá #mentalillness #calmzone#mensmentalhealth #maledepression#anxiety #vulnerability #realmencry#allman #authenticity #honesty #timetotalk#headstogether #brenebrown

In a man’s world feelings are the enemy – a thing to be avoided at all costs. A bloke may spend his entire life defending, strategizing and posturing against ever being truly seen.⠀⠀
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Over time he becomes a human pressure cooker of pent up emotion, and unless he finds a healthy way to release it will either implode or explode. It is only ever our resistance to our feelings that causes us to experience pain.⠀⠀
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Once you stop resisting and start feeling you reclaim your true power. And there is nothing more powerful than a man on the other side of omerta.⠀⠀
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It’s time to break the vow of male silence.⠀
Join the movement. ⠀⠀
Spread the word.⠀⠀
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"Everyone is fighting a hard internal battle. In a world where we are drowning in the relentless need to portray our picture perfect lives on social media, very few of us are disclosing this battle, but that doesn't mean it's not happening." - Excerpt from chapter 5 of Odd Man Out.⠀
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To read the first chapter entirely free head over to breakthevow.com⠀
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It's time to break the vow of male silence.⠀
Join the movement.⠀
Spread the word.⠀
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To buy a copy of the groundbreaking new book Odd Man Out: Breaking the Vow of Male Silence head over to breakthevow.com⠀⠀
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To buy a copy of the groundbreaking book Odd Man Out: Breaking the Vow of Male Silence head over to breakthevow.com⠀⠀
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It's time to break the vow of male silence.⠀⠀
Join the movement.⠀⠀
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Here's what Sherrill had to say about Odd Man Out:⠀

"If you resonate with Brene Browns work on shame and vulnerability, this is a must read. If you are parenting a boy or young man, this is a must read. If you have men in your life, this is a must read."⠀
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To grab a copy of this groundbreaking book, head over to breakthevow.com⠀
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It's time to break the vow of male silence. ⠀
Join the movement. ⠀
Spread the word. ⠀

#oddmanoutbook #breakthevow #mask#archetype #book #reading #mindfulness #wakeup #positivity#suicideawareness #brotherhood #omerta#omertá #mentalillness #calmzone#mensmentalhealth #maledepression#anxiety #vulnerability #realmencry#allman #authenticity #honesty #timetotalk#headstogether #brenebrown #beaman

To buy a copy of the powerful new book Odd Man Out: Breaking the Vow of Male Silence visit breakthevow.com⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Culture is essentially "the way we do things around here" — and it affects everything.⠀

Feminist marketing consultant Kelly Diels is a powerful thought leader who supports people to dare to be a deliberate culture maker, to reject all those unconscious biases that are deeply entrenched in our psyches — racism, ageism, ableism and so on.⠀

We (Nige and Ell) see ourselves as culture makers — and you are too. Anytime you declare that you do not buy into the 'man up' culture, you are asserting yourself as a culture maker. ⠀

As Kelly says: Let's make a better one.⠀

It's time to break the vow of male silence.⠀⠀
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The vow of silence is a secret code of conduct – a set of rules and expectations that men all over the world are initiated into when they are boys: Don’t feel. Don’t cry. Don’t talk about it. Compete. Conquer. Be the best. Shut up! Put up! Don’t mess up. Man up!⠀⠀
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The vow of silence is a conspiracy of silence whose sole aim is to repress a man’s emotional truth. ⠀⠀
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He is expected to erase all emotion other than pissed off, shut down.. and sport. He is expected to become solid as a rock in a crisis, a man of steel who can deal with the hardships of life, rationally, logically and without emotion. ⠀⠀
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To buy a copy of the groundbreaking book Odd Man Out: Breaking the Vow of Male Silence head over to breakthevow.com⠀⠀⠀
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‘Everyone is fighting a hard internal battle. In a world where we are drowning in the relentless need to portray our picture perfect lives on social media, very few of us are disclosing this battle, but that doesn’t mean it’s not happening.’⠀
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We commissioned the amazing Georgia Flowers to create this amazing image @georgia_foxglove. ⠀
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It was inspired by a drawing I was given years ago of a self-pointing pistol. We went through multiple drafts of this before arriving at the image of the 9mm gun and really feel that Georgia captured the grittiness and horror of the impact that the vow of male silence has on men everywhere.⠀⠀

Please feel free to share this image as we attempt to raise awareness around the true impact of the vow of male silence.⠀⠀
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Most of the difficulties we experience as men are the result of not knowing how to process the hurt we experienced in childhood. If you are struggling, reach out and ask for help. It might just save your life.⠀⠀⠀
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Back in the late eighties when I first discovered bodybuilding and decided that I wanted to compete, I remember having to break omerta and tell my mates that I didn't want to go out boozing down the local pub with them anymore. ⠀

At first, they mocked me and for a time excluded me from the pack but I knew the importance of being able to make up my own mind about the kind of life I wanted to live.⠀

When it come to being a real man in our society we have to be brave enough to challenge the status quo .To say NO to that which is damaging us. ⠀

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Odd Man Out is a book about breaking the stereotype of men's behavior in industrial society. It is a guide for men to understand that they are human and need not succumb to the misogyny and machismo prevalent in today's commercial society. You can learn more by going to the book's website at breakthevow.com or by going to the book's Instagram page @oddmanoutbook
#oddmanout #nigeatkinson #elloaatkinson #stereotypes #menandwomen #understanding #industrialsociety #consciousness #breakthevow #feelings #emotions #machismo #helping #ascension #men

Men have got a bad reputation for being immature, infantile and boyish.⠀⠀
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If you deny a man the opportunity to express his wounds (e.g if you deny the boy within), you also prevent him from becoming the three-dimensional man he is capable of being (you deny the man).⠀⠀
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This isn't about condoning immature, idiotic, offensive, misogynistic behaviour in men. When we see men acting like immature idiots, they are concealing the wounded boy who lives within. That doesn't make their behaviour okay, but it does give us a window of insight into what's really going on.⠀⠀
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We have to start to cultivate a culture where men have space to share and voice their wounds so that they don't have to resort to acting like dickheads.⠀⠀
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The men I see doing their inner work are beautiful men. They haven't LOST anything by breaking the vow of male silence. It just means they have reclaimed the other aspects that the rigid, dehumanising concepts of masculinity demand we disregard — our sensitivity, our softness, our strength, our sense of humour and fun, our kindness and our full humanity.⠀⠀
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Men who have broken the vow of male silence are complete men, whole human beings... men who haven't cut off and discarded parts of themselves in a sorry attempt to belong.⠀⠀
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Let us dare to give ourselves and each other the space for the wounded boy to come forward so that we can call forth the real man that's waiting to be reclaimed.⠀⠀
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In a man’s world feelings are the enemy – a thing to be avoided at all costs. A bloke may spend his entire life defending, strategizing and posturing against ever being truly seen.⠀⠀
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Over time he becomes a human pressure cooker of pent up emotion, and unless he finds a healthy way to release it will either implode or explode. It is only ever our resistance to our feelings that causes us to experience pain.⠀⠀
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Once you stop resisting and start feeling you reclaim your true power. And there is nothing more powerful than a man on the other side of omerta.⠀⠀
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It’s time to break the vow of male silence.⠀
Join the movement. ⠀⠀
Spread the word.⠀⠀
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#oddmanoutbook #breakthevow #mask#archetype #book #reading #mindfulness #wakeup #positivity#suicideawareness #brotherhood #omerta#omertá #mentalillness #calmzone#mensmentalhealth #maledepression#anxiety #vulnerability #realmencry#allman #authenticity #honesty #timetotalk#headstogether #divinemasculine#beaman

Huge thanks to Sally for leaving a top review on Amazon. Here's what she had to say:⠀

"A very powerful 'must read' for any man who's struggling. Buy it for all your loved ones. It's a life changer!"⠀
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To buy a copy of the groundbreaking book Odd Man Out:Breaking the Vow of Male Silence head over to breakthevow.com⠀⠀
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When it comes to breaking the vow of male silence the only one who can stop you NOW is yourself. ⠀
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It’s time to break the vow of male silence.⠀⠀
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Men everywhere are quietly struggling, suffering in silence. ⠀

When this inner struggle is driven underground we do crazy things. We react angrily. We hurt others. We hurt ourselves. We become violently confused. ⠀

It’s time to break the vow of male silence.⠀
Join the movement.⠀⠀⠀
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The mask doesn’t just cover our faces; it covers our entire being. Basically, it’s a cover up job. We mould our masks to fit one or more archetypes of accepted masculinity and to guarantee a certain outcome: acceptance, inclusion, approval, or respect, for example. Over time, fitting in becomes easier than standing out and eventually, who we really are becomes invisible.⠀⠀
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It's time to break the vow of male silence.⠀⠀
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Men are basically walking pressure cookers, stuffed full of guilt , shame, anxiety, fear and unexpressed emotion. The suffering that men experience as a result of upholding the vow of male silence builds up within us, turning dark and toxic. For lots of men, sooner of later this unexpressed gunk turns into a creeping, malignant depression.⠀
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It's time to break the vow of male silence.⠀
Join the movement.⠀
Spread the word.⠀
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To buy a copy of the groundbreaking book Odd Man Out: Breaking the Vow of Male Silence head over to breakthevow.com⠀⠀
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Human beings appear to have an insatiable desire to be right about⠀
everything, even when its blatantly obvious we are wrong. It's insane to want to be right instead of wanting to be happy, and yet for the biggest part we blokes do. ⠀

Breaking the vow of male silence requires that you lay down your defences, forget about everything you think you know, and remain open and receptive. That brother,is the only way to reclaim your full hu-man-ity.⠀
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It’s time to break the vow of male silence.⠀
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The vow of silence is a secret code of conduct – a set of rules and expectations that men all over the world are initiated into when they are boys: Don’t feel. Don’t cry. Don’t talk about it. Compete. Conquer. Be the best. Shut up! Put up! Don’t mess up. Man up!⠀⠀
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The vow of silence is a conspiracy of silence whose sole aim is to repress a man’s emotional truth. ⠀⠀
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He is expected to erase all emotion other than pissed off, shut down.. and sport. He is expected to become solid as a rock in a crisis, a man of steel who can deal with the hardships of life, rationally, logically and without emotion. ⠀⠀
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The price of the vow of silence is colossal.⠀ ⠀⠀
It leaves men feeling frightened, isolated, confused and alone unable to connect with themselves and the people in their lives. ⠀⠀
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It's time to break the vow of male silence.⠀⠀
Join the movement.⠀⠀
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When we take full responsibility for our own crazy shit on the inside then the outside will change accordingly. ⠀⠀
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What if male violence is trying to give us a message: that men and boys are in pain, pain which, because of the vow of male silence they are not allowed to express in simple words or tears. What if male violence is, in the words of Mark Greene, an expression of male emotional isolation? ⠀
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It's time to break the vow of male silence.⠀
Join the movement.⠀
Spread the word.⠀
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To grab a copy of this powerful book head over to breakthevow.com⠀
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It's time to break the vow of male silence.⠀
Join the movement.⠀
Spread the word. ⠀
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When a boy is indoctrinated into the vow of male silence he is expected to erase any and all emotions that convey vulnerability. ⠀⠀
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He is bullied and brainwashed into believing that he has toughen up. That any emotions other than anger are a sign of weakness - a threat to the status quo. ⠀ ⠀⠀
Men are taught that "might is right," often with devastating consequences. ⠀⠀
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There is another way, one that goes against the current thinking of the world. ⠀⠀
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Every man is now being called to find a new definition of manhood. To break the vow of male silence in his own life and reclaim those parts of himself that he erased in an attempt to fit in. ⠀⠀
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Only then will he be able to express his right to be FULLY human- to open up and feel - to cry without having to apologise. To be fully alive in every area of his life. To be a living, breathing, expression of love. ⠀
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Contrary to popular belief that is what being a REAL man is all about.⠀⠀
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Read the first chapter of the groundbreaking book Odd Man Out: Breaking the Vow of Male Silence absolutely free. Just head over to breakthevow.com⠀
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Forgiving another human being for how they have hurt you is one of the most warrior-like things a man can do. We men are accustomed to pain but we have been taught little about how to truly forgive and let go. In fact, we've been taught the opposite, that a real man bears a grudge and fights to the death. If you want to know what you're really made of, dare to face and be willing to forgive your past. Then, you'll find out what being a 'real man' is all about.⠀
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To buy a copy of the groundbreaking book Odd Man Out: Breaking the Vow of Male Silence head over to breakthevow.com⠀
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It's time to break the vow of male silence.⠀⠀⠀⠀
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"Everyone is fighting a hard internal battle. In a world where we are drowning in the relentless need to portray our picture perfect lives on social media, very few of us are disclosing this battle, but that doesn't mean it's not happening." - Excerpt from chapter 5 of Odd Man Out.⠀
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To read the first chapter entirely free head over to breakthevow.com⠀
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It's time to break the vow of male silence.⠀
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I’m a big fan of simplicity. I’ve watched the minimalists documentary on Netflix and Ell and I regularly clear our clutter and aim to live a simple life. There is great power in simplicity, and this extends to breaking the vow of male silence too. ⠀

Here’s what breaking the vow of male silence can look like…⠀⠀

“I’m sad.”⠀⠀
I’m lonely.”⠀⠀
I’m struggling’”⠀⠀
I think I might be depressed.”⠀⠀

Breaking the vow of male silence is no easy business, but these short simple sentences can open up a whole new way of communicating for men. When you feel seen and heard everything changes. ⠀⠀

It's time to break the vow of male silence.⠀⠀
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To buy a copy of the groundbreaking new book Odd Man Out: Breaking the Vow of Male Silence head over to breakthevow.com⠀⠀
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It's time to break the vow of male silence.⠀⠀
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Here's what Sherrill had to say about Odd Man Out:⠀

"If you resonate with Brene Browns work on shame and vulnerability, this is a must read. If you are parenting a boy or young man, this is a must read. If you have men in your life, this is a must read."⠀
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To grab a copy of this groundbreaking book, head over to breakthevow.com⠀
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It's time to break the vow of male silence. ⠀
Join the movement. ⠀
Spread the word. ⠀

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When it comes to men, don't be fooled by who you think you see. There is a whole other world going on below the surface that he rarely if ever speaks about. ⠀⠀⠀
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The uncomfortable truth is that all men bear the scars of old wounds that have not fully healed. Most of the time, men in our society are not permitted space to talk and to get the support they need. As they retreat further into the clutches of the vow of male silence, they adopt masks as a way of coping with their pain and fitting in to a society that doesn't want to know them in their vulnerable, wounded state.⠀⠀⠀
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If we are to truly break the vow of male silence, we have to start to become curious about every man who walks this planet—no exceptions. We have to want to get to know the wounded boy inside the man.⠀⠀⠀
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So as you go about your day today, get curious whenever a man crosses your path... whether it's the ones who look like they've got it all together or the ones who look close to falling apart. ⠀⠀⠀
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Look for the cracks in his armour and imagine the little boy inside him that is trying to break free.⠀⠀⠀
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Your compassion and curiosity might just change his life.⠀⠀⠀
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"Expecting a man to always be strong and silent is downright unrealistic and causes pointless suffering to both men and women alike. When a man is minimised, ridiculed or shamed for simply being human, an ancient wound is opened, stirring up deep rooted emotional pain. ⠀

We have to learn how to support a man to be in his tears, not shut him down and wipe them away as quickly as possible."⠀
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It's time to break the vow of male silence.⠀
Join the movement.⠀
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"Whatever is wrong in the world is in myself - learn to deal with the shadow and you do something real for the world." - Carl Jung⠀⠀
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To buy a copy of the groundbreaking new book ODD MAN OUT: Breaking the Vow of Male Silence visit breakthevow.com.⠀⠀
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Recently, I played the part of Geoffrey Fisher in an amateur production of Billy Liar. Geoffrey is Billy’s father, and for the biggest part he is a short tempered grumpy old git. ⠀

However, being a fan of the method I’m always keen to get under the skin of the character – to find the truth. For me, creating a believable character is not that dissimilar to breaking the vow of male silence. ⠀

During one scene in the play I had to describe my Mother in laws death to my wife. Initially, my delivery was hammy, but I was determined to find and reveal Geoffrey’s vulnerability.⠀

So I started to explore how I could help this man break the vow of male silence. Here's what I did to prepare for the scene; I sat quietly backstage and re-lived my Dads death in every detail. Then I fused my feelings with with the character, and let the raw emotion bleed out into the scene. It was a beautiful moment. ⠀
Breaking the vow of male silence is all about reclaiming those feelings that you were told from an early age were prohibited. So, if you’re reading this then I dare you to take an emotional risk today, to become your very own method man. Like Geoffrey, you must find the courage to the break the vow of male silence in your own life – to share your inner world – talk and feel. It might even save your life.⠀ ⠀
It’s time to break the vow of male silence.⠀
Join the movement.⠀
Spread the word. ⠀
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As much as we've been sold the idea of the "rugged individual", the truth is that relationship is the central part of the fabric of our lives.⠀

We cannot break the vow of male silence alone.⠀

True brotherhood is the only way we will overcome the loneliness that plagues us. ⠀
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To buy a copy of the powerful book Odd Man Out: Breaking the Vow of Male Silence head over to breakthevow.com⠀⠀⠀
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It's time to break the vow of male silence.⠀⠀⠀
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