THOUGHTS ARE NOT FACTS... Shocking, right? Just because a notion crosses your mind, does not make it ‘so’.
So then, why do we stress ourselves out over so many things that either simply are not true or will never eventuate?
“Don’t believe everything you think.”
It sounds SO simple, but boy oh boy... it ain’t.
Us humans are so utterly convinced that what we think, IS... these Automatic Negative Thoughts (ANTs) will pop into our brains and instead of inspecting them & doing a security check, we just wave them right on in! Thus allowing them to wreak emotional havoc & mental anguish to their heart’s content.
Go on, have a quick think about the countless hours or days on end you’ve spent feeling anxious over things that probably never, ever came to pass.
We assume, we deduce, we calculate, we hypothesize, we speculate on ALL possible outcomes in any given situation. And in the process we expend unknown amounts of energy worrying about all of those said outcomes, in equal measure.
Now I’m not an anthropologist or a sociologist, but I am sure that our minds evolved this way for a good reason.
All of those nights in our caves, precariously trying to deduce if the noise outside was just the wind or a saber-toothed tiger, probably, you know, kept us alive. I’m quite certain it was helpful... back then.
Let’s just say it’s no wonder we are always tired!
Something I’ve worked very hard on since the age of 20 (and my first stint in a wheelchair, following a major car accident) is to be solutions focused.
I was lucky enough to meet an incredible clinical psychologist following that very traumatic time in my life.
Everything Valma taught me about Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) I have done my best to apply to my thought patterns on a daily basis. But it’s not easy, it takes a conscious effort.
What is CBT you ask?
Put simply, it is the development of personal coping strategies that target solving current problems & changing unhelpful patterns in cognitions (your thoughts, beliefs, and attitudes); behaviors; and emotional regulation.
CBT helps you to focus on solutions & encourages you to challenge distorted thoughts....
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