The body positive community isn’t a club. But it IS a political movement, & it is (&should remain) rooted in fat activism. Think of it like this,
You came to me. 'I want to be involved in disability rights'. Amazing, come in, there is space for you to be my ALLY. Once you have space for your self, you would ask, 'what can I do to be the best ALLY to you'? Good question, here is a few things you need to know in.
1. Educate your self. Disability rights has a long history, you should know it, not only that but there are different schools of thoughts, you should read them too.
2. Listen to disabled people. If we ask you to use different language or suggest you learn something, do it. Fundamentally we are the leaders here & you should do your best to stand with us on all things, deferring to us if you are unsure or don’t feel able to speak on a subject.
3. Do not speak over us. Disabled people have voices. We had to FIGHT for them. We came together when it felt impossible & found a strength that had been assumed we didn’t contain nor deserved. We stand together & shout about the shit we encounter daily. Don’t EVER take that from us. Don’t ever think you know better, think you have a right to move the furniture or to answer questions on subjects you have no lived experience of. You will & should never be the face of the movement, it is imperative that you remain firm in a supportive roll, constantly being fierce & raising our voices.
Now, replace disabled with fat. Or even fat women. Because those fucking bad ass women started this. We just got invited to the party. Only now we are (and I say we, because I am not considered a fat woman by societies standards) are getting our selves all over excited & shouting about our rights when this wasn’t our party in the first place.
Are you actually an ally? Are you truly in the body positive movement, or are you just looking for your own body confidence? You need to decide because you're discuss things that you don’t understand, sharing information that isn’t accurate, using hashtags that weren’t meant for you & your polluting all the incredible work that’s been done before you.