The other day in a doula support group I pointed out a scarcity mindset in response to a very basic question about offerings. One woman felt like doulas who tried to be all the things were taking business away (from her and other women). LOOK HERE: As long as there are folks making choices that don’t serve their best interests, as long as there are folks interested in making and having babies, as long as you like wine and I like whiskey, there will ALWAYS be someone in need of your services. There will always be someone that resonates with you over someone else. There is MORE THAN ENOUGH to go around.
#RealTalk: Scarcity is a myth perpetuated by our heterosexist patriarchal society. Scarcity is oppressive and harms women the most, as it pits them against each other in competition for mates, resources, and likeability. That a woman, whose own body is capable of creating another human with her own blood and still have enough left over for her own body to do what it needs to do can attach to scarcity is indicative of the INNER WORK that needs to be done. Scarcity thinking makes you desperate and people can FEEL that, even if they can’t (and don’t) articulate it. And it’s that feeling that keeps business away. So unless someone is actually passing out business cards in front of your business or using the comments on your social media page to direct traffic to their business, NO ONE IS TAKING YOUR BUSINESS FROM YOU.
MOTHERS ARE DYING BECAUSE BIASED HEALTHCARE PROFESSIONALS ARE NOT LISTENING TO THEM! MOTHERS ARE SUFFERING BECAUSE WE LIVE IN A CULTURE THAT ONLY SEES THEM AS BABY MACHINES AND NOT FULLY EXPRESSED HUMAN BEINGS NEEDING A VILLAGE TO SUPPORT THEM UNCONDITIONALLY SO THEY CAN SHOW UP FOR THEMSELVES AND THEIR FAMILIES and your ass over here complaining that someone is taking business that hasn’t even come your way?! GTFOHWTBS and grow the fuck up!
If this is the kind of energy you’re bringing into #birthwork than maybe this isn’t the right work for you.
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