✨It’s easy to think, “I’ll be happy when…I have X amount of money in the bank….I lose 15 pounds…I find my soul mate… (…anything else you desire) ” because we have a conditioned belief that in order to be happy we have to be and look a certain way, own certain things, follow a certain path to “succeed” in life. In reality, having and achieving these things creates attachments that only give us an illusion of security.
Most people aren’t happy after they possess these things and move on to pursue the next thing that they think will make them happy. The more attached you are to external, material possessions, to outcomes and people, the more you fear loss and the more you allow them to take control of your happiness. Practicing detachment (one of the moral guidelines I learnt in yoga, “Aparigraha”) by letting go of these external cravings, letting go of wanting things to go in a certain way gives us so much freedom and allows us to live a more fulfilling life. Start by separating yourself from the little attachments in your daily life, seeing your morning coffee as something you enjoy rather than something you desperately need, or seeing your partner as someone who adds to your life instead of being the reason you live. Do you really need that new shirt that looks exactly like that other one you have at home? or that new car because it’s better than your neighbour’s? The next time you want to buy something, think about why you need it so much? Will it bring you lasting happiness? Be grateful for whatever comes, cultivate appreciation and feel happy with what you have right now.💖 📸 @steffi.sarkisphotography