The Thursday before Kate Spade and a week before Bourdain, I was coming back from some crazy late night grocery or child pickup and my car radio was on #NPR, as usual. The "#OnBeing" project was on air. And then Maria Shriver started saying this, and I sat glued, on my driveway, waiting for the program to finish.
Maria Shriver : And I think, very often the images that women get of these other women who seem to — like they’re running for vice president and all their kids are perfect and everything’s great, or they’re running for this, and their husband adores them; they’re having sex all the time; they don’t struggle with their weight; their children are all 4.0s. And that’s just not true. It’s just not true. And so I think the illusion of balance, having it all — I think that’s all a sales job.
Krista Tippett: I just want to just repeat this, this thing you’re saying that’s so important but we don’t say this out loud — that we are so skilled and trained, all of us, to be presentational. And now there are all these platforms for presentation, and yet it’s so true, as a woman, that there are women who look like they have it all, but if you get in close enough to any life, you see this. But it is debilitating, this presentational skill that we have.
And it is so true, this presentation skill that you see all around, of people having everything in control, this idea of an easy life where we-have-it-all can be debilitating.
The same holds for food too. Everywhere you see, food is presented like an art, everyone is striving to make their food look better than others. I get comments on how the color palette of the food I serve can be made prettier. To tell the truth, many a times I deliberately don't bother to pretty up my food. Because that is not my everyday life.
On many a weekdays my Dal doesn't have a sprig of coriander and that is okay. I want you to know that I have a messy life, where I strive to put wholesome meals on the table, even though that food doesn't look pretty. There are days, when the food isn't even that wholesome. I do my best and you do your best. And believe me that is fine.
My life and food on most days is blehh, like this Tetor Dal!!