- I recently got insulted on social media and criticized for the work that I do. The latest comments go as such, "I don't get it." -- "I understand what you are trying to do, doesn't look good." -- "I can't believe you ruined that painting, it looked so good." These comments were made in the last few days. Compared to what some people receive as attacks or rude comments, I'd say I'm pretty fortunate since these are relatively tame and polite.
I'd be lying if I said these negative comments didn't hurt my feelings or offend me and usually my way of protecting myself is throwing some passive aggressive shade and showering them with heart emojis and "thanks sweetheart" kinds of responses. It's my way of getting back at them. Basically I'm trying to get them even more mad and frustrated with me so that they make another rude comment and make a fool of themselves, and then I can walk away feeling like I'm the innocent hero. -
I'm trying not to do that anymore. I would much rather have a dialogue and hear opposing views and opinions and to talk about it. I want to understand the psychology behind what makes someone treat another human being with disrespect.
I want to ask them questions:
Why do you dislike my work? Which aspects offend or discomfort you? What sparked the need to write those words in response to my work. Are you a painter as well, and if so do you understand the practice? What would you have done differently? Why do you choose to criticize without giving any constructive comments? Did you enjoy sharing that remark? What did you hope to accomplish?
I'm all for opposing opinions and I know that not everyone is going to like my work. I'm just wondering why I feel like we are talking much less and instead pointing the finger and judging from our high horses without getting down to the same level to open a discussion and share insight to the words we choose to speak and write online. Having said all this, I'm trying not to focus on the negative since I am blessed with a beautiful following who encourage, inspire, and support my craft. I am lucky to have you and thanks for hanging out with me, listening, and also for keeping me accountable 🙏🏻❤️-