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Episode 2 of @thejaneandbeashow is OUT NOW!
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Find us in your usual podcast places. Simply search for The Jane & Bea Show.
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We would love to hear your feedback, thoughts and questions. Your input will help us keep making a podcast worthy of the amazing feedback we’ve had so far.
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Although many parents leap into blame and accusation, it’s actually the least effective way of supporting a child through their behaviour.
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It is fear that leads us into blame and accusation. So many fears!
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Instead focus on connection - this is an ongoing theme in our podcasts episodes. Connection is an incredibly powerful element our relationship with our children.
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Episode 2 releases 21.9.18 at 12pm GMT.
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Bea x
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Episode 2 of The Jane & Bea Show (@thejaneandbeashow) will be live from Noon GMT this Friday.
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Our podcast delves deep into how to raise children with deep connection, reducing and resolving trauma. As @janeparenting2 says, it’s more fun than it sounds!
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In episode 2 we look at bribery, incentives and rewards plus we also take a look at neuro-diversity and give you practical take always to support your own journey raising children.
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Join us in all your normal podcasting places! Or click the link in my profile.
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Episode 2 is out this Friday at Noon GMT.
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Join @janeparenting2 and me for a fab discussion on Bribery, incentives and rewards. Plus we discuss what we mean by neuro-diversity and share practical take aways that you can put into action immediately if you want to.
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We have loved receiving your feedback. Please keep it coming - your comments, questions and suggestions will help make the podcast grow from strength to strength.
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And if you want to subscribe you can visit the link in our profile.
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The journey towards being a gentle parent can be a rocky road. However your path takes you, know that you are doing your best. The fact you are pursuing a gentle and respectful way of raising children is powerful and will change the world.
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One thing I want to make clear.
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Gentle parenting, of which Yes Parenting is one approach, has no room for blame or accusation.
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No matter how well you wrap it up in words such as ‘conscious discipline’ or ‘my child needs to understand...’, if you are blaming your child or another child for something they’ve said or done (or not said or done) then you have had a momentary lapse in your gentle focus.
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Don’t go blaming yourself though! Celebrate that you’re one less moment of blame away from no longer blaming others.
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Respond to yourself with forgiveness, understanding, compassion and kindness in the same way that a gentle parenting approach responds to children.
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Connection will resolve any unwanted behaviour far quicker than blame or accusation.
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Check out my stories to find out more about a brilliant Yes Parenting acronym: FUCK this SHIT! You can use it in the face of any unwanted behaviour you’re faced with whether it’s your own, your child’s, another child’s or someone else’s!
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Love Bea x
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Whether physical, emotional or mental, all punishments hurt children. They hurt you too.
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Punishments (and rewards which are basically punishments in disguise) are totally unnecessary when it comes to raising awesome humans.
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Find a Yes to joy, peace and connection.
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I love my hens. I’ve recently rescued three hens from a commercial farming environment. So now I have five hens and each of them has their own distinct personality.
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I meet all their main needs the same but I know that some of them like cuddles more than others. Some like me to stand still so they can peck my toes. Some like me to hold down the black currant branch so they can jump for berries.
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Our children are like this. At a basic level they all need the same from us. But each child is their own person. They have varying needs which can change according to the day or even the weather.
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Many parents get stuck thinking they should parent their children the same. The reality is when you trust your children you discover that they each need something different.
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Fighting the different needs our children have will impact their behaviour, our connection with them and everyone’s experience of family life.
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For example, one child isn’t too bothered by screens. They like to watch one episode of their favourite show and then they go off to do something else. Another child loves to immerse themselves in youtube videos about Top 10 lists of all sorts of random topics.
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Parenting them the same might mean each child having one hour on screens per day. The first child wouldn’t need that much but might seek to fill that time because it’s been given to them. The other child might want longer and feel frustrated by the arbitrary limit in place.
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Parent the child in front of you and trust them.
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Episode 1 of our podcast is now ready for you to listen to in all your usual podcast places or click on the link in our profile.
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In it we begin to explore the question of “What is trauma?” and how it relates to the way we raise children.
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We’d love to hear your thoughts and feedback when you’ve listened. Episode 2 is getting ready to be released soon!
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Your relationship with your child is more important than your relationship with the world.
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Your child has a right to walk this Earth with their head held high, with the power and strength of a proud parent underneath them. Proud of who that child is as a person rather than for their accomplishments.
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Standing up for your child does not mean disregarding your values and principles. It means embracing them and putting them first.
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If your child isn’t hurting themselves or anyone else with their behaviour then flipping stand up for them. Fight their corner. Show the world what it means to raise a child who knows that it’s important to have a voice.
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In a world of wide-spread discrimination, when we stand up for the smallest and weakest among us, we let them know that who they are matters.
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For too long children have been controlled through fear. They have learned to please others and respect authority without question. Enough!
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By standing up for your children, even if it means standing against the whole world, you show them that it is OK to question authority. It is OK to question rules. It is OK to choose a different path that is better suited to them. It is OK to rise up even if you seem alone in doing so - there will always be people who have your back.
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This is Yes Parenting in action.
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Embrace the opportunity rather than the obligation.
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Yes, many of us are afraid we’re going to mess up this parenting lark.
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Yes, most of us are aware we’ve made epic mistakes already.
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Yes, many of us are aware of our own baggage getting in the way and not all of us know how to get beyond that yet.
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Yes, parenting is relentless and at times utterly exhausting.
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And yet it’s a flipping awesome privilege. We *get* to do this. It’s not that we *have* to do it but we *get* to do it. Do you feel the energetic shift when you change the language?
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Baby humans are hardwired to develop into awesome adult humans. Not perfect adult humans but perfectly imperfect.
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There is joy, peace and connection to saying Yes to the awesome humans right in front of you.
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Inspired action takes faith. At least, for me it does!
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The interesting thing is that whenever I take inspired action I find myself in a state of ease and flow. Life becomes expansive and spacious. I notice I am aligned with abundance and synchronicity.
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So why do I slip out of taking inspired action?
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Fear.
Doubt.
Resistance.
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Inspired action is when you notice that little nudge within you to do something and you do it. You don’t schedule it for later. You do it in that moment.
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I might be doing the washing up and a nudge tells me to text a friend. Or I’m running an errand a flash of Yes Parenting wisdom pops into my head and the nudge tells me to post it. Inspired action takes care of those things at that time.
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Inspired action is also when I finish a task and I pause, take a breath, and ask my inner wisdom, “What next?” and then I listen. And then I do what I’m told!
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Inspired action isn’t just for tasks or texts or time management. It’s also for parenting. Your inner wisdom absolutely knows what needs doing to find a Yes to joy, peace and connection with your children.
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When you trust your inner wisdom and take inspired action you’ll be amazed at how things shift for you as a parent. Crazy responses to unwanted behaviour that you think are ridiculous suddenly bring about a turnaround or a release. Sharing a video from youtube via WhatsApp opens up an unexpected conversation with your teenager.
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Have a little bit of faith. Start listening to the nudge and see how it unfolds for you. I’d love to hear your experiences with this.
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What is your relationship with taking inspired action?
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Bea x
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@janeparenting2 and I have launched our podcast. Episode 1 is now available wherever you normally listen to your podcasts. You can also find it at the link in my profile.
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Our mission is to expand on what it means to raise children without the impact of our own baggage. This means diving in to look at the role trauma plays in our parenting, our children’s behaviour and all sorts of other aspects of raising children.
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Whether you are a parent or a professional, a grandparent or a neighbour to a family with children; we hope to share content that will inform, encourage and educate you as you seek to do your best.
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We would love to hear your feedback too!
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Maybe the idea of kindness seems too simple. A value we band about without much thought - words without action.
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I hear parents telling children to kind. The way they tell them is often without any kindness at all.
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Many parents fear that a kind response is going to pave the way for unwanted behaviour. Somehow kindness will let a child think they’ve got away with it rather than realising that kindness is what soothes and comforts the child and begins to restore connection, peace and joy.
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As parents we need to learn how to be kind to ourselves. What does that even mean in a world of guilt, blame and shame? You are doing an amazing job. You’re not perfect and never will be so extend kindness to yourself for exactly where you are today.
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And as you extend kindness to yourself you will notice the ease with which you respond to your child with kindness too.
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Trust your child.
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Their behaviour is communication - if it’s behaviour you dislike and want to change then it’s most likely that it’s communicating that something isn’t right with their world.
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If you spend too long trying to find out what’s going on with them then you’ll miss an important window to be present, to listen, to connect, to validate and to receive.
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Their communication is a gift to us.
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Sometimes that gift comes wrapped up in angry, aggressive, silent, dismissive, frustrated, door slamming, weeping, ignoring behaviour. The gift is right there the moment you stop trying to figure out what’s going on with them and instead begin to trust them.
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Why wont you that trust your child?
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For me it tends to come down to my fear of failing them, that they’re playing me, that I know what’s best for them, that they aren’t old enough to make certain decisions for themselves and, get this, it will probably inconvenience me.
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Every one of those responses does not demonstrate respect, compassion and kindness. And thank God I generally am more likely to trust my kids’ communication than not. But I’m human and carry baggage and this stuff lives within me too.
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We don’t need to know in order to find a Yes to joy, peace and connection.
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Once we find that Yes it’s possible our child will end up sharing what is going on with them. Or they won’t. But at least they are connected to the safety of their relationship with you.
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Bea x
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PS. Want to be deeper into this journey with me? Subscribe to my new podcast, hosted with Jane Evans (@janeparenting2). Click on the link in my profile.
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Thank you, thank you, thank you for your patience! Episode 1 is LIVE. Bea and I are a bit nervous but also hugely excited! We cannot wait to hear what you think about how you would like your podcast shaped for future episodes.To meet your needs and curiosity about raising children beyond our baggage! Please share away and SUBSCRIBE to catch all forthcoming episodes! https://itunes.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-jane-and-bea-show/id1435003113?mt=2&i=1000418966492 (copy and paste this link or find the Jane and Bea Show on your podcasts.)

Congrats to Aasha, Dakota, Amanda, and Meghana on being this year’s Marshall Scholars from New England! We had a great night with Marshalls past and present to send them off to study across the UK. #BeAMarshall and join them! bit.ly/WNEH6Y
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The sun is so bright and warm and delicious!
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After an intense meeting this morning I’ve come to sit in my garden alongside my hens. I love nature. I love animals.
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On Sunday I am adopting 3 more hens so today I’ll be building a hen coop and run. I’m hoping my eldest son will help me - he’s very talented at making things with his hands.
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Doing things alongside my children is often when we have the best moments of connection. It doesn’t have to be a project like the hen coop. It might be cooking, driving somewhere, playing Uno, watching a TV show, walking the dog.
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Everything flows from connection. When we lose that connection is often when we find ourselves reacting, instead of responding, to our kids.
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How do you like to connect with your children?
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Love Bea x
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Your breath is with you all the time. My friend once shared an affirmation she uses when things are hard - “while I am still breathing there is more right with me than wrong with me”.
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When we connect with our breath we can shift our emotions and our bodies. We can use our breath to change the dynamics with our children too.
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When I was walking away from Supernanny style parenting, towards respectful, kind and connected parenting; taking time to breathe in a mindful way really helped me respond to my children instead of react to their behaviour. I still take time every day to notice my breathing and use it as a tool to support me.
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In Episode 1 of our podcast (which will be released very soon I promise), @janeparenting2 and I share some practical tips about how to connect to your breath to help you connect with yourself and your child.
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We hope you’ll find it a wonderfully simple take away.
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Love Bea x
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