I always tell my clients it’s not about changing other people’s opinions or perspectives, it’s about protecting ourselves, building self-esteem & self-confidence, and simply - liking who you are and being proud of it vs. desiring to change it.
I’m with family this weekend, and while I love them - I’ve had some big ups and downs with them over the years. Some rough times...mostly when I was going through a lot with my own health and when I was really depressed and unhappy in my life. I often took out my pain- on them.
A lot of times I’ve felt misunderstood and unlovable - and from those experiences built up resentment.
In the last few years it’s taken a lot of effort, understanding and self-responsibility to let go and move forward. But I’ve definitely made a lot of progress.
What’s helped me the most is focusing on myself, caring about myself and loving myself instead of trying to change my family members. Because they’re them, and I’m me.
I’m sure a lot of us have a hard time around family. If you haven’t healed from the past yet, the best thing you can do is to almost put on an invisible armor when you’re with them. Protect yourself. And stand confident in who you are.
Remember everyone is just trying to do their best, with the way they view & perceive the world. We all have pasts & experiences that make us US and when you start understanding where and why people are why they are - it makes life a lot more comfortable, peaceful & supportive. The end of this year is all about letting go and moving forward. 🧡✨✌🏼