I picked my youngest son, Bryant, up from a local church’s lock in this morning. As we rode along, I thought about his life. He is a lot like me: outgoing, talkative, “a social butterfly” is what my mom calls him.
This means there have been and will continue to be more opportunities for Bryant to hang out with friends and engage in social activities. This is a new world for my husband Paul and myself. Our oldest son, Aaron, who has Asperger’s Syndrome, did not have a lot of social experiences growing up. Consequently, as parents, we didn’t have to make decisions like we have to do now with Bryant.
As we drove home this morning, I had to stop myself several times while asking him questions about his night. I explained to him why I was asking so many questions: this was all new to me. But I would try really hard to give him space. In true Bryant form, he answered, “It’s ok Ma. I understand.” When you have children that are so different (neurotypical and Spectrum in our case), there may be a tendency to parent them the same way, more than likely more cautiously than permissive. Paul and I are taking this leg of our journey one day at a time, making sure to be fair to Bryant and respectful of his journey as well.... #AusomeLife