Guys I've been taking a little social media break lately for reflection which has led me to a few things to share:
1. All of you who are working so hard to chase a dream (that may still be poorly defined), keep going, keep dreaming. I'm so lucky that I love my job, the fact that I get to change people's lives daily and the role I get to play in a difficult chapter of their story. It is an amazing thing to look back at all the work and feel like it was all 100% worth it (even the hardships).
2. Remember that dreams grow and evolve as you do. Don't keep in the same lane just because it was the first lane you picked. Constantly take time to evaluate your heart and gut and listen to what makes you happy. Don't be afraid of change -- some would say that change is the only constant in life. Be dynamic- grow, evolve, believe, change.
3. Take care of yourself. Seriously - we are so bad at this! Can I tell you how many times I've said "after this test, or after this rotation, or after residency, or after fellowship match, or after my first year in private practice...etc, etc." We cannot care for others fully if we ignore ourselves. So go for the run, pack your lunch, schedule your appointment at the dentist, buy the shoes, curl your hair, wear the lipstick, whatever. Make yourself a priority. Life is short, time passes quickly, live a healthy life and find the things that make you "you" and give no apologies.
4. Find your own meaning of "balance" - I truly believe balance never exists when the scales are not weighted evenly. Meaning, it will be unattainable if you don't love both pieces of the puzzle. So don't settle, search for the career that makes it ok to leave the house when your babies are sleeping. Put in the hard work, don't be afraid of the time that will pass, it is worth it - I promise.
5. Love your tribe. Regardless of your differences, even if they are across the country or live next door or only a virtual friend. You need them all and I've got some of the best. I'm fortunate to count YOU in this. As I've posted less lately -- your sweet messages have meant so much. Thank you!
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