see me with more than your eyes— when you use your heart I can really feel it. ••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••
there are currently few places in the world where nonbinary people feel they can be acknowledged for the person they truly are, as opposed to the gender others assume of them. When the environment fails to account for someone's experience, it is important for a person step in to show support. We each have a role to play in adapting our behavior and surroundings to include gender beyond the male/female binary.
every person in my life is in a different place in terms of using my pronouns and understanding my gender. I used to equate these things with being supported, accepted, and unconditionally loved. I thought everyone always had to get my pronoun right and completely understand my experience of gender in order for me to feel those things. 5 years after coming out to myself as not cisgender and 3 years into medical alignment, that is no longer the case. Support, like anything else, is a process that evolves over time. ••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••
the fact that my 90 year old grandparents know about nonbinary gender and correct themselves when they accidentally use my given name is more than enough. Knowing I can turn to my siblings in situations that feel unsafe or uncomfortable and they will be there for me means the world (even if they don’t always use my pronouns). Feeling able to bring my authentic self and experiences with gender to conversations and visits with my parents has been life changing and brought us much closer. Being in a relationship with someone who is brave enough to set an example for what unconditional love and support of a nonbinary person looks like raises awareness and creates change unto itself. It’s not about being perfect, it’s about trying and making a difference. Openness to learn and an effort to affirm is really all it takes.