@alokvmenon: "what i tell everyone is that, you could wake up tomorrow and find out your trans. every single one of us could wake up tomorrow and be like i’m not interested in doing this. we could wake up tomorrow, and go to the beach, meet someone cute, and next thing you know we’re in a queer relationship. are you able to accept the fact that you could potentially be queer or trans? or do you only accept trans and queer people from a distance. and that’s where we’re at, we have tolerance and not acceptance. tolerance is look at them over their, they’re so interesting, i love their fashion, but i would never. or if my brother was, no. but the minute i actually ask people, would you be okay if you had to live as me? everyone says no, and i think that people don’t understand the choices i’ve had to make in my life. that every single day, i have to ask myself, am i ready to be harassed, am i ready to be spat on, am i ready to be laughed at, am i ready to be misgendered? no matter how much success i have, i’m misgendered every single place that i go and people think that it’s me inconveniencing them, and that the problem is they can’t use gender neutral pronouns, and not that it’s difficult for me to survive. they make that equivalent. and i’m like really tell me more about how difficult it is for you to use a word, bc let me tell you about how difficult it was to walk down the street with 15 different people taking photos of me without my consent. and i think every single day i make the choice to live the life that i live because i believe every single person should be able to be safe no matter what they look like, would you make that choice? and what i find is that most straight people would not, and that in fact if most straight people were read as gay, they would freak out, they would be like no way! most straight people, don’t even want go to a gay party, they’re like i don’t wanna be seen as that. and then i just tell them, that’s because you hate me, you may say that you accept me, but if if you can never see yourself in a queer relationship, or gender non conforming relationship, or gender non binary yourself, then you fundamentally hate me (cont. below!)"