I’ve been abused many times by many people in my life. Emotional, physical, sexual and verbal. When I spoke out last year about being raped, I had family members disown me for it. I was told I embarrassed them and then called a liar (and many other horrible names). The words “I’m ashamed of you” still ring in my ear. It was painful and hurt me so deeply but I let those people go. I haven’t spoken to them since. I know my speaking out helped many women also share their truth. I have been able to overcome, heal and speak out about most of my abuse yet with others I haven’t and it really bothers me. I vacillate between being strong and courageous on certain issues to feeling weak and intimidated on others. It makes me sick to my stomach actually. I’ve allowed myself to be bullied and manipulated by people who have more money, huge egos and big expensive lawyers. I also try to be conscious not to “offend” anyone on this platform but really, why am I afraid of that? People need to get offended sometimes. Don’t you agree? The most memorable people who changed history offended many. Jesus Christ, Martin Luther King Jr., Mahatma Gandhi, Nelson Mandela, & Abraham Lincoln just to name a few.
Today is Thanksgiving - a holiday rooted in the heinous abuse of the Native Americans. I’ve never been much into holidays but today especially it hit me... this holiday has morphed into eating a giant meal and “giving gratitude”. No one likes to think about the true essence of what we are celebrating because it might make them uncomfortable. No one wants to think about the millions of beautiful birds who are killed today so we can be “thankful”. It just seems a little odd to me is all ... like, why don’t we pardon them all for one day to give thanks? Just a thought. I like giving gratitude and eating a meal with my loved ones but let’s not forget the truth. If we don’t speak up for what is right, we let our abusers re-write history. We ultimately give our power and worth to the people who stole it.
Share your truth even if it means it makes people uncomfortable. Oh, and happy thanksgiving!🤗 #thanksgiving #givethanks #truth #abuse #speakout