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Dear Gay Agony Uncle
I have a problem with my sister in law. She, along with my brother and her two kids, moved in with my father two years ago. This was supposed to be a stop gap while they were in between houses, but she doesn’t seem to want to move out. She used some of the capital from the house sale to invest in a business that hit the skids pretty much immediately after she bought into it.

My brother has been supportive and is working two jobs to build up another deposit for a home. They eventually bought a place, and he’s renovated it for them, but she doesn’t want to move. She thinks it’s too small, and has suggested my father move into it and they stay in his larger house. My father doesn’t want to move as he’s happy where he is – all his friends and family are there. My father is now spending more time in our guest room as he likes the quiet life and his grandchildren are very noisy and take over his house.

My brother is such a pussy, he refuses to force her to move and for the last 6 months she’s refused to discuss things. Yes, my fathers house is far nicer and in a better area, but her new house is only five miles away and closer to my brother’s work. She feels she deserves the better things in life. Since her business failed she’s not worked or even looked for employment.

What can I do?

Astley M

Astley

Arrange with your father and brother for the removal, and move all their stuff from your father’s house to the new house. Then change the locks. Once the decision has been made, it’s over. She has no right to stay in the house, and if she wants a better house, she’ll have to work and save up for it. Sometimes assertive action is required.

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Dear Gay Agony Uncle
I have a problem with my sister in law. She, along with my brother and her two kids, moved in with my father two years ago. This was supposed to be a stop gap while they were in between houses, but she doesn’t seem to want to move out. She used some of the capital from the house sale to invest in a business that hit the skids pretty much immediately after she bought into it.

My brother has been supportive and is working two jobs to build up another deposit for a home. They eventually bought a place, and he’s renovated it for them, but she doesn’t want to move. She thinks it’s too small, and has suggested my father move into it and they stay in his larger house. My father doesn’t want to move as he’s happy where he is – all his friends and family are there. My father is now spending more time in our guest room as he likes the quiet life and his grandchildren are very noisy and take over his house.

My brother is such a pussy, he refuses to force her to move and for the last 6 months she’s refused to discuss things. Yes, my fathers house is far nicer and in a better area, but her new house is only five miles away and closer to my brother’s work. She feels she deserves the better things in life. Since her business failed she’s not worked or even looked for employment.

What can I do?

Astley M

Astley

Arrange with your father and brother for the removal, and move all their stuff from your father’s house to the new house. Then change the locks. Once the decision has been made, it’s over. She has no right to stay in the house, and if she wants a better house, she’ll have to work and save up for it. Sometimes assertive action is required.

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okay so if you’re definitely ready, something I’d really recommend is getting your friends to help you. you could ask them to pretend to tease you both, and say things like “ooh (his name) do you want to kiss (your name)” in like a jokey way, but also so that he has to answer, that way you could find out if he actually wants to, and it also kinda puts the idea in his head. plus- simply getting your friends to chant “kiss” or something like that can work, because you can say “alright alright but just on the cheek” and then when they protest say “okay fine a quick kiss on the lips”. and if you want to be private just go somewhere away from your friends to do it. another method is party games like the dare game and spin the bottle, the first kiss is always the hardest, so if you can break that through a game, it will be easier to kiss for real another time :). also if you want to be more direct about it, you could set up like a movie date to see a movie that has a kiss scene in it (which most movies do) and then when the characters kiss say something like “I can’t wait for my first kiss”, just little hints like that. also try to create scenarios, like try to go to a romantic/private setting for an anniversary or something, then do it then. if you’re worried about the while leaning in bit, then maybe try to do it from a hug? like hug him, then kiss him on the cheek, then draw back slightly and look from his eyes to his lips and then maybe wet or part your lips slightly so that he gets the message :) good luck sis! 💗
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qotd: have you ever kissed someone? if so how old were you?
aotd: yes and I was 12
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omg :0 something I’d do honestly! every time my crush so much as speaks I think “god I love you so much”, I feel like it’s bound to slip out one day 😂
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qotd: single, dating, or crushing?
aotd: crushing, and I’ve got it so bad 😭
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awwe agree, hearing ppl make fun of your childhood shows is so painful, like that crap got me through some tough times :,)
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qotd: favourite show as a child?
aotd: no idea but I remember being obsessed with barbie movies 😂
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that sounds difficult! maybe suggest to your mum that she and your stepmother have a phone call before the trip, so that your mum can lay down some ground rules on what she’s happy and not happy for you to buy. also try imploring your mum to give you once chance, say things like “please trust me, just give me one chance and if I buy anything like that, which I won’t, I promise you can stop me from going shopping with her ever again, please just one chance”. also, if you have had a good test result recently or anything like that, try to bring up that in the conversation. :) you could also suggest that your mum can come with you for the first time, and she can walk separately from you guys, but everytime you go to buy something check it wit her. I know it’s a bit of a drag, but it’s better than not going at all, and it’ll be easier for her to agree and trust you to both go alone next time if she’s seen that you’re both being responsible :) good luck!
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qotd: do you wear make up?
aotd: yeah
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for anyone that hasn’t heard- immigrant families who are trying to get into America are being separated, and the children are taken from their parents and put in awful camps (btw I’m just going on what I’ve seen about in on Instagram so sorry if my explanation was wrong) it IS a really tough problem, and I understand that immigrants coming in does upset the countries balance and economy, but honestly people lives and rights to a safe place to live are surely so much more important than anything else?
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qotd: what’s your opinion on families being separated?
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omfg 😂 although for me ironically, the teacher always says that to me when I’m not actually try to copy answers, but never notices when I actually am 😅
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qotd: have you ever copied someone else in a test?
aotd: in science sometimes 😂
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I’d like to suggest that people comment below if they’re going through the same thing, and you can hit them up :) it could be really useful to talk to people that are going through the same thing! and you could even end up having an online relationship with them.
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first of all, you’ve probably heard this before, but there’s absolutely no need to label yourself! it’s so so true, you can take all the time you need to figure out your sexuality, just roll with how you feel and don’t worry too much about anything else :) I understand though that it was be confusing and stressful, and it’s not always easy to just ‘relax’ about it. do you have someone irl to talk to about it all? if so, venting to them about everything could really help, and if you keep it to yourself you’re in danger of overthinking it and worrying about it more and more, and you don’t deserve that! talking about it, and as you said, trying it out, could really help you if you feel like you just need to know. its really easy to meet someone online, which is why I suggested that people comment if they are going through the same thing/ are interested in dating you, dating someone online might be easier if you’re not 100% sure on your sexuality, because it’s easier to keep things casual and no one gets as hurt :)
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qotd: what’s your sexuality?
aotd: straight and I’m a massive ally 💗
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I’m sorry, that must be really hard! I feel like you have two options here: 1) you try to talk to the guy, he might be reluctant at first and if he’s ignoring your messages it may be better to try to talk to him irl (or like write him a note and slip it in his bag). but just say that you regret it so so much, and that you would never do it again, and that you love and miss him so much. I really hope that he’ll realise that you actually are really sorry! I know it may be scary, but you guys could end up giving it another shot, so be brave for him! :) and option 2) try and get over him, and just realise that you’ve come away with an important lesson! the fact that you regret it is really good, and you’ll know all about the consequences so won’t be tempted to cheat again. that’s a really valuable lesson so appreciate it :) hopefully one of these options will be right for you 💗
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Hey girl, I can't give you advice on letting go of anger and loneliness knowing that you're going to use my advice to put up with and settle for less than what you deserve leaving your bf at peace instead of you! I would have suggested that your bf is being selfish and enjoying this time before the baby is born, but not every night when you're only 14 weeks pregnant and you say that the relationship has been going back and forth... What I can advise you to let go of his him! And where loneliness is concerned I can tell you and reassure you that sometimes we are much better off by ourselves! If you don't take action now you will find yourself months after the birth of your baby still pleading with your bf to stop going out so much even though you wanted to 'let go' and turn a blind eye to his absence and accept it- you won't be able to as long as you're in a relationship with him because he is disrespecting you, so his absence will continue to affect you leaving you unable to be at peace with yourself! He is behaving as if he's single and he knows what he is doing is wrong... You and your baby deserve a man/father you both can rely on! I wish you all the best💕 #abandonedpregnant #singleandpregnant #singlemom #singlemother #pregnancy #pregantwomen #preggoproblems #dilemma #problems #motherhood #deadbeatdads #absentfather #abandonement #neglect #agonyaunt #advice #columnist #writer #lifecoach #mentor #publicspeaker #comment

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that must be hard! maybe you need to try to find guys who share the same principle? maybe if you joined a youth group at church or something, you could find them there. or if you’re old enough, I’m sure that there’s an online dating website for people who want to wait until marriage :) just stick to what you believe in- don’t conform to pressure from guys, it’s amazing that you’re sticking to your principles! there are guys out there that will be okay to wait, it just might be a little harder to find them. also try to be honest upfront that you want to wait, so that they are okay with it before you start dating rather than finding out later and cheating. good luck 💗
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qotd: what age do you think is the right age to start having sex?
aotd: ooh well obviously when the person is ready, but if they are maybe like 16?
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omg that would’ve been hilarious 😂idk if it only works in movies though
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qotd: have you ever been asked out?
aotd: yeah
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ask him why he wants to wait :) he may have a valid reason- such as he wants to focus on his academics, and in that case then respect that, but if he’s just saying that as an excuse, or he’s keeping you as a back up option, then that’s not fair! so try to ask him why he doesn’t want to date yet. even if it’s awkward to bring it up, it’ll be worth it to know!
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qotd: how old is your crush?
aotd: 14 (like moi)
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