Do you remember the saying from your own childhood 'do as I say, not as I do'? Reflecting on our parenting nowadays, I sometimes catch myself instructing our children not to do something that I am doing. And I think, how helpful is that to them, really? Isn't the goal of parenting, to raise our children to be adults? To learn how to live independently and not just know how to follow instructions? And by default, shouldn't that then involve some autonomy? Making decisions to do things and having the freedom to do them?
Today Miss 5 asked to mop the floor because her big brother did. So she mopped the floor. She also decided to change the oil in our electric oil diffuser. The house smelled nice and initially I was thinking about the fact that she hadn't asked permission. But on further reflection, wondered, should she need to ask permission to make the house smell great? If my husband had changed the oil diffuser, I would have viewed that as being helpful. It wasn't dangerous. The oils are expensive so you wouldn't want to over-use them (at $30 each, that would be a small issue) but I could easily show her how much to use?
Home educating comes with all kinds of surprises. Every year we think more deeply about life. At the moment we are having a closer look at what it means to be a parent. What do you think?