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I recently realized that I do a lot of heart check-ins. Not only through prayerful conversation with God, or through #unleashsheets, but through quick reflections.

Like, "What's motivating me right now?" Growth through vulnerability, authenticity, and courage matter to me. Checking in on my motivations helps bring awareness to areas of self-reliance that need attention.

When I sense I'm not safe or valued by what someone says, how I respond depends on what motivates me.

When I got irked by something someone does, what I say in response depends on what motivates me.

Whatever I choose to say and do could be motivated for self-focused reasons or in self-transformation rooted in God at work.

I don't always get it right. Far from it. Yet, these little check-ins help me recognize when pride creeps up, bitterness takes root, or I want to retaliate instead of relate.

Motivations comes from the heart and what motivates us impacts what we see, act, think, say, and do.

Heart check-ins remind me that my motivation matters because it can fuel harm in myself and others or foster healing instead.

CULTIVATION REFLECTION: Consider the last positive and negative interactions you had with someone. What motivated you to respond or react the way you did? Was it for self or from God at work?

There's no wrong answer as long as it's honest. We're all a work in progress.

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Whatever that hard thing is in front of you, and you sense deep down that God is calling you to it, I hope you'll choose to obey. Even if it means you might get it wrong.
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How often do we feel that spiritual nudge, but stop ourselves right where we are?
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We want to make SURE we heard God right. Or be SURE that we won't be rejected by others. Or CERTAIN that we'll survive the next step and be OK.
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Fear of the unknown holds us back. Possibly getting it wrong keeps us from moving forward.
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Yet...
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The very God who stirred your heart to do this next thing, is the God who gives you faith to follow through.
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And He's the same God that provides the measure of grace we need right when we need it.
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Lean into Him. Listen. Then move forward and respond.
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If there's something you missed, or you didn't understand it all, God's not going to corral you into spiritual prison. Only the enemy does that.
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God's grace is fully available right now and right then.
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Faith. Grace. Mercy. Forgiveness. They're all in. All here. All given freely by a God we could never fully understand but who fully loves each of us.
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It's been a rough week and we've had broken connection. Tonight, it's cheers to perseverance and every victory we can rejoice in with a movie outdoors.
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There is more peace, joy, and freedom to experience as you experience more of God. I just want you to know that the hard, heart work is so worth it, dear one.
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When things get emotionally messy, like they did for me this week (more on the blog), it's not the end. Confess. Repent. Get honest. Get real so you can live free.
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Living free means a lot of different things to us. I pray we each come to know it as God intends it by letting Him continue His transformative work in us.
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You don't have stay stuck. You don't have to keep spiraling downward either. You are loved and empowered by the Spirit. Lean into Him.
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And if you're struggling to deal with the emotional junk or living stuck, consider @unleashsheets. They are a tool that facilitates the process of heart and soul care.
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Doing the work is no small feat. It’s hard to prioritize time in reflection with God. Our tendency is to keep running. Keep going without attending to the needs of our soul.
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Step back. Pause. Take your thoughts captive and identify the feelings bundled up inside.
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God is waiting to reveal so much to your heart dear one.
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My brain is tired. My heart feels the pull of feeling too many feelings and thinking too many things. .
Pouring out needs a whole lot of pouring in.
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When I hit this place it's a reminder that I just don't know.
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And it's OK to not know.
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This might be the very place of coming to Jesus that we all need on a daily basis. We don't need to know all the things or figure the way out for ourselves.
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I don't know about you, but what I really need is to feel, receive, and experience the One who knows me completely. Anyone else?
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We need His life flowing in and through us as we live known. The only way I think I know how to do this is to step back, get quiet, and let Him speak to my heart.
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Lord, I need you. I don't know what I don't know but I sure do love that you know me and love me still.
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Amen.
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I dont know about you, but I forget to pray for others. I mean to. I do initially. But, I want to remember to intercede frequently.
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After my post and video on #CalmingAngryKids with @triciagoyer, I received numerous emails asking for prayer.
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Parents are in the thick of multiple hard things and angry kids too.
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Pain seeps in from gross injustices and anger is understandable. It needs to be processed with safe people in safe ways so healing can happen.
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This cross reminds me today to pray for the hurting parents and children who reached out. It reminds me to pray for us as we learn how to be safe people and create room for #emotionalhealing.
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We need to allow space for our own difficult emotions if we want to grow in tolerance for the expressions of others in pain.
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Let’s pray today. Ask God to stir your heart towards prayer for someone who is hurting, whether you know why or not.
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Dig in. Intercede. Do your own #soulwork so you can be a vessel of God’s love to others.
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You are treasured, dear ones. Keep stepping.
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Faith and fear are not mutually exclusive. I know people say this sometimes, but I've experienced a whole lot of fear while stepping forward in faith.
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Let's not burden ourselves with an expectation to be free of fear before living with faith, 'K?
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Faith trusts God with what He sees, knows, and desires over what we fully understand. It requires a heart surrendered to Him and movement towards Him.
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It does not require perfection or absence of emotion. .
To expect ourselves to get it right before we experience Him is to live under the bondage of legalism.
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To expect that we won't feel difficult emotions while moving forward (in ways that lead towards freedom) is unrealistic. It cripples faith and our ability to live well in our souls. .
We might face crippling fear with God and experience His strength along the way. When we do, we experience our need for Him in deeper ways. He becomes more amazing.
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It's a beautiful thing.
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Faith is not the absence of fear. Faith steps into fear trusting God is near.
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Quality Time ••
We’ve been talking this week about needs and wants. And what it looks like to communicate and honor those. We’ve been talking about how those things lead to more peaceful days, more joyful days, days were we feel seen, and loved. ••
It’s a new language we are teaching them. It’s a new language we are learning ourselves. It’s a language that allows us to be fully present and all that we were made to be. It’s a language that leads to alignment and a life of intentionality. ••
I pray it’s a language that becomes fluent and natural for each of them. So that they can live in their power and strength. So that they could be influencers and open doors of peace, joy and love. The greatest being love. Love for each of their neighbors just as Jesus asks of each of them and each of us. ••
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I am pretty competitive, friends of mine that know me will seconnd that! And a little healthy competition among friends is great! But my competitiveness is with MYSELF, the woman I was yesterday, my numbers last quarter, the records that were set before me, my previous best.
If you're trying to compete with the woman next to you, you're part of the problem. #RealTalk ✌️ ✳️✳️Real success is not found paved in your footsteps on other women. Your RISE is found in your ability to become a better version of YOURSELF. ✳️✳️ When I was younger, I just wanted to be the best at everything I did. I used to think that helping along someone else in that process would slow me down, but I was so wrong. When my perspective shifted and I started practicing the art of giving more than you get, my whole world evolved. In return, I got back MORE than I could give. And not from those that I gave to without strings, but from others that gave to ME without strings attached. We Rise by Lifting Others!! ✳️Tell me Ladies, how can you help another woman rise today?? Or How have you helped other women rise in the past? Tell me a way you can do this without getting ANYTHING in return! Tell me how another has helped YOU without gaining anything in return!! I want to know that there are AUTHENTIC, UNCOMPETITIVE women out there!! Give me the Real Conversation! 👇
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I'm aware that my passion for pursuing hope and faith in the midst of hard times can give the wrong impression. That maybe I don't know what it's like to wrestle, weep, and feel like the world is crushing in. Truth is, I know this too well. Depression, anxiety, PTSD, more.
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Still, there is something deep inside of me that's been like a fire for as long as I can remember. Sometimes, I feel odd for having this kind of faith at a young age. I don't want others to think that I think I'm higher than them. I see God's highest and best for me and them.
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Truth be told, I've been sensitive & hyper-aware my whole life. If it leads me to pride, please forgive me. If it leads me to act in insensitive ways, I hope those near to me will let me know. I want to grow and we can't grow unless we know.
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I pray my sensitivity & awareness fuel courage for fiery faith while growing me in humility & honor for self, God, and others. All this to say, I love God and I love seeing people grow in faith through hard times. Not because it's easy, but because I know how hard it is
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Some of the bravest and most amazing people I know are the ones digging into their hard story. They pursue God when they feel like giving up. The steps may be tiny or big, but they keep stepping. They face hard relational circumstances & the pain of personal growth.
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They are fierce in heart even when they weep in bed, not knowing how to get up again. They've faced brutal attacks of the enemy & the effects of people's sinful choices. Deep down, they want to know God more and experience more of Him. This kind of courage lights up my soul.
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If you feel shaky, scared, & is if your whole world is caving in, it's not. You're facing hard things. Even mega-hard. Your bigger God is with you & I'm cheering you on. You might feel unseen in your struggle, yet you let God work in those hidden places. Keep going.
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Ain't that the truth? We don't know what we don't know. Once we know, we need to face it so we can grow.
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So how do we know what we don't know? How do we become aware of denial in our own lives?
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One way is to develop safe friendships so we can ask the hard questions like, "What do you see in me that needs to change because it's not healthy? What areas do I need to grow in?"
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That's hard to consider, huh?
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Before we even get to that point, we can ask God first. "Tell me what you see."
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The Holy Spirit's role in the life of a believer is to reveal more of God and draw us closer to Him. It's to convict, comfort, and guide.
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Spend time asking, listening, and receiving so you can become aware.
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In this place of awareness, we need God's courage to face the truth that's been revealed.
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Guess what?
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He'll provide it.
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Choose to trust Him in the process.
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With that courage, take a step forward in response to Him. You don't have to feel confident to take the step. You just have to be obedient.
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Need help hearing from God? Or identifying what you don't know needs to be faced within yourself? #UnleashSheets can help with that.
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If you have other ideas, please share them! We can learn from one another.
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Last week, I posted a video about 3 things to consider when doors seem to close even through you're doing what you know to do.
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Sometimes, it feels like the walls are crumbling too.
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Remember, Job? If you've read his story, it's hard to forget. The walls literally crumbled on his house, crushing his children in one fell swoop.
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Ugh. How horrible his suffering must have been.
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Job was tested and God allowed it. It's a hard story to take in.
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From the series of losses, to the way his friends did the same lame things most of us tend to do, Job had a LOT of pain to deal with.
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While most of us won't experience this level of loss, we will all experience some degree of it.
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When we do, we might act like Job and his friends. We might seek to understand why things happen. We might blame God, others, and ourselves.
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We want to figure out a get-it-right path where everything feels better.
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We are called to trust. In every single circumstance.
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We are given the presence & power of God to equip us for perseverance and faith. In every single circumstance.
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When the walls of safety, security, and significance are torn down, we're left feeling vulnerable. Exposed.
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There's nothing left to protect us, or so it seems. This leaves us feeling shaky and scared.
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God's foundation remains. It's on His foundation that we find sure footing to get up again.
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This looks different to all of us. It might include meds, a recovery program, counseling, or other means.
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Whatever it looks like for you, please remember God will help you rebuild from where you are.
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BTW - find good friends to walk with you as rebuild. Just not the kind Job had. K'? ;)
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Watch the video for the 3 things I mentioned through the YT link in profile.
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This! Created by my friend and former foster mom, Jolene Underwood, #UnleashSheets will help you unravel confusing thoughts and emotions, as you draw closer to the Father. I share some of Jolene's own story, and more about this tool at "Jolene Underwood's Journey to Unleash." Temporary link in my profile.

Or go directly to #UnleashSheets.

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"This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.”
‭‭Psalms‬ ‭118:24‬ ‭ESV‬
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Let’s face it, this is easier to do in a beautiful setting and when you’re feeling loved.
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When it’s harder to see, may we remember the beauty we’ve known before and may we notice new beauty in unexpected places.
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May we remember we are loved no matter where we are or what we’re feeling.
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What if we fully believed what God said about us, others, & Him were true? Like really, truly, knew deep in our souls the way God sees us and others and the way God truly is. Not the ways we try to make it work to our own limited beliefs and understandings.
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What would that change in our lives? I can see it now. The way we live, think, act, and feel would change significantly.
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We'd find rest and healing for weary souls, individually and collectively. In community.
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Who we are is originally created and defined by God. Alone. Not by man. Not by the hurtful words someone else said or the way the world presses in to define us.
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It is revealed to us, and others, throughout our lives as we seek and respond to Him. As we cultivate our souls to live by God, by the life He died to give.
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The truth of who we are is received more than achieved.
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Let that sink in for a minute. What does it mean to you?
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As we experience the truth of who we truly are, while also experiencing the truth of who others are, and who God is, it changes the core of our being so that how we see everyone is radically changed.
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These experiences come as we move forward through hard things, receiving what God wants to reveal.
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What if we asked ourselves this question as if God asked it of each of us. Then, we wrote down or spoke out loud how that would change us and impact others?
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Oh, those are some answers I'd love to hear.
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Happy Friday Introductions y'all.
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My name is Jolene and I'm an emotional heath warrior, a soul care mentor, & a deeply loved child of God.
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I believe you are loved more than you know. I see your desire to live a God-honoring life & I pray you come to know fully the Life that lives within you.
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I want to run from hard things. Like the pain of grief that comes from accepting what is and that means accepting some kind of loss.
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Or perseverance pains while enduring the challenges of #spiritualgrowth and #emotionalhealing.
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And especially, the kind of ripping away pain when we let go of what we think we know in order to simply know God.
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Growth happens through hard things. When we lay our needs before Him, we make ourselves available to receive His strength.
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Let us not despise the hard things because maybe it’s how God will become more real to us. Maybe it’s how our need for Him becomes clearer. Our love from Him more meaningful.
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Even so, it is HARD and HOLY work. We cannot do it all on our own and God never expects us to. I pray we would not neglect the comfort and care he provides through safe community and wise counsel.
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Digging in, laying down, receiving love.
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Keep going dear ones.
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I want to run from hard things. Like the pain of grief that comes from accepting what is and that means accepting some kind of loss.
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Or perseverance pains while enduring the challenges of #spiritualgrowth and #emotionalhealing.
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And especially, the kind of ripping away pain when we let go of what we think we know in order to simply know God.
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Growth happens through hard things. When we lay our needs before Him, we make ourselves available to receive His strength.
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Let us not despise the hard things because maybe it’s how God will become more real to us. Maybe it’s how our need for Him becomes clearer. Our love from Him more meaningful.
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Even so, it is HARD and HOLY work. We cannot do it all on our own and God never expects us to. I pray we would not neglect the comfort and care he provides through safe community and wise counsel.
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Digging in, laying down, receiving love.
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Keep going dear ones.
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#innerhealing #recovery #surrender #chooseGod #getreallivefree #acultivatedlife #lifecultivated #perseverance

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Everything you have been through, good + bad has equipped you with the tools you need to help others rise and do meaningful work.
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