Just recently one of my followers sent me a private message expressing her displeasure with one of my #EBsPinkNotes💗 posts. She was angry with me because I said that women should spend more of their time growing and examining the affects of their choices verses blaming, criticizing and judging their partners. She felt that I was letting men off the hook or supporting their frequent mistreatment of women. Here's what I shared with her:
Blame keeps us in a state of victim-hood, but accepting responsibility for our choices liberates us and prepares us for the blessing that is sure to follow a positive shift in mindset. When we have enough courage to remove the mask and admit to our wrong doings and how our own lack of growth has contributed to our current circumstances, the process of healing and growth can begin. In my experience, healing/growth happens when and only when we have enough courage to be honest with ourselves and see ourselves for exactly who we are, not who we want to be.
In every situation, we have the choice to be victims or victorious...we are not able to do both at the same time. When we take ownership of our part in a dysfunctional situation, it doesn't give the other party a pass, however, it solidifies our place as the bigger person.
Always remember, it is not anyone else's responsibility to make you happy, only you can do that for yourself. Other people can add to our happiness once we have done the work to lay the proper foundation. Don't fool yourself into believing that you are in an unhappy situation because of the people around you...you are always in control of your environment. If you don't like it, change it...it's just that simple. Just make certain that you are the change you want to see❣️Happy Monday, ❤️EB