#abidinginthevine

MOST RECENT

Two weeks ago my husband and I encountered what countless other married couples do: a disagreement.
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But, thanks be to God, it was settled within the hour; and so was my heart.
I spent less time striving to be heard, and more time listening. My husband felt respected and heard my every word.
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But in the past, these spats would grow like a summer storm lasting for days, roiling clouds and lightning strikes and the whooshing of indignant winds. And then the heavy rains would fall from my defeated eyes, and I’d soak my pillow silently as the unresolved event recycled in my sleep-abandoned mind.
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But once I chose to start listening to my husband’s viewpoint without offense and halt my self-preserving rant;
Once I refused to do a rain dance of remembrance of past wrongs against me, and fuel the lightning wildfire that was sure to follow—reconciling became as natural as a summer breeze.
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Funny thing is, try as I might, I CAN’T REMEMBER what the details of this latest tiff was about! I just remember the swiftness of the passing storm, light from the sun returning, and the feel-good current of marital peace in the air.
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I wonder: Did God give me the gift of forgetfulness? For my inability to remember the cause of our dispute is a blessing akin to the undeserved blessing of God choosing to forget our sins. ⚜️
"I will be merciful to their unrighteousness, and their sins and their iniquities will I remember no more." Hebrews 8:12
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“I, even I, am he that blotteth out thy transgressions for mine own sake, and will not remember thy sins.” Isaiah 43:25
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So when the next conflict occurs, dear wife, (whether tomorrow or next month; we are imperfect beings, after all), may God bless us wives with the kind of forgetfulness that does not keep a record of wrong (even if you actually DO remember 😊), and give us strength to honor our marriages in the name of Christ. ⚜️
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Our prayers are answered!!🙌🏽🔥✝️
We are in the mist of a REVIVAL!!!🔥🙌🏽🔥 have your way with us Lord!
Let your fire, your all consuming fire burn anything up in us that is not from your kingdom! We surrender it all to you lord from head to toe! We surrender our body,mind, soul our spirit man all for your use for your kingdom!
Kingdom come your will be done!
Turn your world ablaze through us Lord here we are, your church!
Have your way, set the captives free heal your people! Revive your people!!!!
what do you want us to learn from the past revivals??? First second and third great awakening, The Welsh revival, The Azusa revival, Toronto and all the movements!!! Teach us Lord!!🙌🏽🔥🙌🏽🔥
#revival #abidinginthevine #jesuslover #holyspirit #azuzanow #revivals #firefromheaven #usemelord #healyourland

Our prayers are answered!!🙌🏽🔥✝️
We are in the mist of a REVIVAL!!!🔥🙌🏽🔥 have your way with us Lord!
Let your fire, your all consuming fire burn anything up in us that is not from your kingdom! We surrender it all to you lord from head to toe! We surrender our body,mind, soul our spirit man all for your use for your kingdom!
Kingdom come your will be done!
Turn your world ablaze through us Lord here we are, your church!
Have your way, set the captives free heal your people! Revive your people!!!!
what do you want us to learn from the past revivals??? First second and third great awakening, The Welsh revival, The Azusa revival, Toronto and all the movements!!! Teach us Lord!!🙌🏽🔥🙌🏽🔥
#revival #abidinginthevine #jesuslover #holyspirit #azuzanow #revivals #firefromheaven #usemelord #healyourland

Psalm 66
Thank you, Lord!!
“Tell the world how wonderful He is”
“ everyone will say, come and see the incredible things God has done; it will take your breath away!
#abidinginthevine #thankful #meditating #jesusismylord #jesusismybff #fathersonandholyspirit 💕❤️🔥💕❤️✝️🙏🏼💕❤️
How do we enter into HIS Presence?
“We enter His beautiful anointed gates with thanksgiving”
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This is tonight!
Different location!
944 Dogwood
Costa Mesa
✝️🔥✝️🎉🎼 Join us as we gather under the open heaven of revival and unity!
As we are all abiding in the same vine sharing the LOVE OF THE FATHER with each other! 🎶❤️🎶✝️ #abidinginthevine #openheaven #revivalishere

What makes wrapping our tongue around "I'm sorry" to our spouse when we've done something wrong so hard?
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Whether we’ve said something nasty in haste or disregarded our husband's wishes, saying we’re sorry envelopes us in an edgy feeling of embarrassment reminiscent of childhood, and a potent desire to defend our actions before we utter those words.
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We don't like to be called out by our mates (yet don’t we do the same?) and we don't like to admit our sins when clearly our husband has so many! When our spouse is offended or angry at us, an invisible blockade of excuse and blame springs up and we hesitate to make amends.
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(In that instant, we recall our husband's past sins against us and their many words that stung. We sift through the catalog of times our husband never apologized to our satisfaction, and feel justified in keeping our silence.)
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But an amazing thing happens when we stop listening to the whispers of the Enemy and break the levee of self-protection and pride we’ve erected over time.
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I have found that when I'm quick to apologize, my husband softens. He’s more loving and careful how he speaks. And more apt to confess his shortfalls to me. Win-win.
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"He that covereth his sins shall not prosper: but whoso confesseth and forsaketh them shall have mercy." Proverbs 28:13
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With my genuine contrition, there is no gloating 'aha' with him, no shaming, no recounting my former mistakes; all is well and those fears that kept me tight-lipped and resistant in the past are drowned in the peace that floods in.
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There is nothing quite as sweet, dear wife, as a hug and a kiss that says, "I forgive you". Yet, even the rapturous feeling of forgiveness between spouses is but a tiny fragment of the grace-soaked forgiveness that is ours right now in Christ.
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"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse from all unrighteousness." 1 John 1:9

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"Dost thou ask how I abide?
How this life I can maintain?---
I am bound to the Vine by life's strong band,
And I only need remain.
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"Where first my life was given,
In the spot where I am set,
Upborne and upheld as the days go by,
By the stem which bears me yet.
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"I fear not the days to come,
I dwell not upon the past,
As moment by moment I draw a life,
Which for evermore shall last."
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-Freda Hanbury, excerpt from the poem "Only a Branch"
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#remain2018 #thetruevine #abidinginthevine #grafted #onlyabranch #jesusisthevine

From the message: New Music is Coming & Jesus the Vine
Feeling dry lately? How much time are you giving to the Lord...
#alonetime #jesus #spendingtimewithgod #quietplace #brideofchrist #abidinginthevine

Being married takes courage.

As a Christian wife, you agree to let another guide you. You acquiesce to the how and the what and the where of your husband’s steering.
God requires strong, intelligent, capable you to yield to your imperfect man’s direction. .
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This is never easy. Our first inclination is to balk and to squirm and to question God.
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But I love this powerful truth that Elisabeth Elliot wrote in her book Passion and Purity, “We are always held in the love of God. We are never wholly at the mercy of others—they are only ‘second causes’ and no matter how many . . . causes seem to be in control of what happens to us, it is God who is in charge, He who holds the keys, He who casts the lot finally into the lap.”
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You may not agree with how your husband handles a particular decision or where he chooses to lead you down the path of life together, but nothing is left to chance.
God is in charge.

Everything you endure, whether directly the result of your husband misguided hand or not, is sanctioned by a holy God. He holds the keys.

Your husband, as a ‘second cause,’ is doing the bidding of God as he governs you and the family God gave him. He is held accountable for his choices, yes, but it is God who allows the choice to be made. And, most importantly, the outcome. He casts the lot.

So, take courage, dear wife. There is nothing that you suffer that God does not see. Whatever trials or hardships God has allowed is drawn from the deep well of His love for you and is meant to bring you closer to the image of Christ and to an eternity spent with Him.

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Cabernet (and me) in the making. #abidinginthevine #growingsomewhere #ihearthesound

Happy mother's day to all women today. Because the truth is, if you're a woman, you've been a "mother" to someone or something in your life.
God gave women the instinct to love and nurture. Flowers, pets, family and friends. I guarantee you've been a source of help to someone.
So enjoy YOUR day. Pamper yourself a little! And praise God for the unique and perfect way He created you to be!
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#devotions #devotional #seekHimfirst #Christfollower #bible #intheword #scripture #womenintheword #bedeeplyrooted #faith #Godlovesyou  #womenoftheword #saltandlight #abidinginthevine #faithinspired #Mothersday2018 #lantana blooms #iheartnature_nm #tnhusa #usa_naturehippys #naturehippys_ #iheartnature

A husband is a mirror to your true self.

His presence in your life is a catalyst that reveals your character, bare and unadorned.

When you were single, you didn’t think you were impatient. But as a wife, how swiftly your impatience flows while waiting for your slower...than...molasses...in...wintertime husband make a decision that’s important to you.

You didn’t think you were prone to nagging, but when your husband can’t seem to finish a simple (to you) home project or stop that annoying habit fast enough, you’re right there to let him know about it, hands on hips and a furrowed brow, a dozen times or more.

You didn’t think you were an angry, selfish, or self-righteous woman either, but being married brings out, in the glare of the glass, those things you were blind to before.

He stands in front of you reflecting each unsavory trait you exhibit, like spinach in your teeth, you didn’t know was there the whole time.

This unflattering reflection didn’t appear because you married a stubborn, insensitive, or lazy man. It was already in you, dear wife.

How often do we wives point at our husbands in our minds and say, “I wouldn’t be like this if he would just change his attitude” Or “if only he would treat me nicer, I would stop yelling”. We justify our sinful actions because, after all, he made us do it. .
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But God has made it clear in His word there never is an excuse to sin nor should we use a sliding scale to judge which one is worse. .
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“If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.” 1 John 1:8
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. “Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to him it is sin.” James 4:17

So, when you catch a glimpse of your unpleasant self as you walk by (oh my, is that really me?), don’t blame the mirror. Be thankful God has shown you what needs to be fixed by the confounding and caressable mirror that He gave to you.

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Abiding in the Vine- what does that really mean, to abide?🤔 Abide means to stay put, stick with it, don’t forsake, don’t discard, stay consistent, stay true! 🚂

It means that even when you’re tempted to be disappointed, fearful or disgusted cuz you don’t SEE the answer quickly manifest as fast as you desire! Stay in there with the Lord! 🤓

Stand and stand sommore! (I know incorrect English but you get the drift! Lol!)😀 Meaning you just keep believing, confessing, loving, hoping, giving, staying faithful to God.
Especially when you encounter that pesky, evil demon of rejection from those you love or the world, you hang in there with Jesus any doggone way!🤠 Those who indeed walk in their feelings, who feel some type of way as my Black culture intimates, are toddlers in the faith to be honest! Feelings are never to CONTROL us, ever!☹️ Feelings are real and sometimes very URGENT but they are not always correct! Feelings are fickle and unchecked can send us over the brink of destruction if not reigned in!😮 “Abide in Me and my words abide in you- you may ask what you will and it WILL be given unto you!” Those words are written in red!(John 15:7) 👑

So with that spoken- ABIDE (hang in there) and let patience have her perfect work after you’ve asked, so that you may be PERFECT (complete) and entire (whole, nothing missing) lacking nothing! (James 1:4 paraphrased)👍 That’s a 1-2 punch this morning the Holy Ghost is preaching to us, baby Grace! Cuz Honey Child it will be worth it ALL when we see Jesus- hallelu!😊 Breathe, Bless, Brake!😇
Psalm 1 Chic!😎
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You don't know where it came from.

The sudden whirlwind of bitter words that shot up over the once calm fields of discourse you and your husband were traipsing.
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"How could he say that? He knows how much it bothers me." .
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"Why does he think that way? It makes no sense to me at all."
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The howling wind of anger flies like debris from a prairie homeland and a secret fear that he really doesn’t love you stings your eyes. .
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You wish to be plucked from this pain and set gently on a technicolor road where love is assured, feelings can't be hurt, and your husband never misunderstands what you say. .
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(Our enemy blows smoke of escape and our rights and the failings of this man to fuel the mistrust in God that he created from the beginning. What is our part in the tempest?) . "But if ye bite and devour one another, take heed that ye be not consumed one of another." Galatians 5:15.
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When you stand in the path of the lashing winds and allow your emotions to reign above the love of God, every slight, snub, and selfish assumption, will knock you down every time, sweet wife.

The only way to withstand the gale force destruction bearing down upon your home, is to allow the steady, refreshing Spirit of Christ to carry your marriage by His strength and power.

The next time you feel the first puff of a self-seeking squall rush past your face, know whence it came, and take a deep breath of what Christ offers instead. .
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Let all the needing to be right and understood and loved like you think you should be go. It is the only way to a glorious marriage amid a tranquil sky. .
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"The discretion of a man deferreth his anger; and it is his glory to pass over a transgression." Proverbs 19:11

Remember, there’s no place like {a Spirit-filled} home.

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Y'all!!!! The levels of "you gon' get this knowledge" that Abiding has dropped in this latest post from The Collective is ridiculous! Read it, share it, then read it again!

Link in bio!

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What does religion have to do with John 15 and Jesus’ description of the vine and the branches?
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More than you might think! New post up on my blog. Link in profile. 😊
#therealjesus #rethinkingreligion #amwriting #amblogging #writersofinstagram #abidinginthevine #abidinginchrist

For years, I thought a peaceful marriage should exist by itself, an incarnate thing, and believed I was short-changed soon after saying I Do to the one I loved.

Marriage, for me, was a struggle to exist in. I couldn’t strong-arm the calm I desired nor would my flabby attempts at being a godly wife produce any lasting effects. I had it backwards, you see. I needed to work for the peaceful marriage I wanted, instead of expecting it to appear out of the thin blue mist of my errancy.

Proverbs 31 lived out takes continual effort. But the rewards outweigh any sacrifices you make.

When you spend precious time making a meal your husband casually mentioned that he’d love, your thoughtfulness adds layers of resilience to the bond you have with him.

When you stay flexible to circumstance and give a smile to your thwarted plans, your contentment shows strength of character and faith in God and your husband's heart can safely trust in you. (Proverbs 31:11)

There is nothing more glorious, dear wife, than to hear your husband praise you!
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(Except to hear those rapturous words “Well Done” by Christ at His return.).
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Remember: only the air you breath, sunshine in the sky, and the grace of God on your repentant heart is free and can be counted on. So . . .love persistently, forgive often, trust in God always.

And the marital peace you crave will settle in and make its home with you.
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“Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.” Proverbs 31:31

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Today is my anniversary. There are no party plans, no dinner reservations, no sparkling card gushing heartfelt sentiments in curly font. Not even a single red rose. We are as poor as church mice my husband likes to say. Some days . . .decades are like that.

I used to eagerly anticipate our anniversary and other special days. I’d pile on expectations of what we would do, where we would go, and what I would wear. But rarely (I think never) did it go the way I’d planned.
Resentment, waiting to burst forth the moment of disappointment, would gush whiny, ungrateful thoughts in my head, sometimes tearfully spoken. My husband (surprise) got the brunt of this torrent. After all, if he really loved me, my foolish heart reasoned, he would have made it happen.
Today is my anniversary. I thank God that in His mercy He showed me that a husband and marriage do not exist to make a woman happy. They exist so we learn to reflect the love of God’s Son in each other. We learn to forgive the speck and not think more highly of ourselves than we ought. We learn to give the sacrifice of a smile. . .
When you yield to God’s vision of marriage, you can look into your husband’s eyes and see a cherished child of God, not someone who failed to keep the world spinning in your favor. You can melt into your husband’s open arms and know that what you feel is but a feather touch of Christ’s future embrace—all the while accepting it for what it is, one anguished soul reaching out to another saying I understand, my dear. I’m right beside you.
Today is my anniversary. I still want to delight in our day with dinner and a movie (and a pretty outfit, a weekend getaway, a brand new car, er, sorry, I got carried away). Instead, I will delight in our day by a smile that relieves my husband of the burden of having to do something or be someone in order for me to be happy, in order for me to love him.
A smile that says: Thank you for being you. You are my gift.
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