My Second Greatest Communication Challenge - My Father.
Whenever I’m spending time with my old man is great and it’s tough.
The dude is 68, he’s from small town NZ, and things were (and often still are) done differently.
Communication being pretty close to the top of the tree.
Making sense of some old and ineffective habits can be, hmmm, fucking challenging.
But, I love him and want my own relationship with him to be as effortless as possible.
I also want his relationship with my sisters to be the same.
Plus, he’s diving into new love - and we all know how much of a total headfuck that can be, especially if we go in blind on the communication front with all sorts of assumptions and preconceived ideas/expectations.
And so, yesterday was a day of some deep, trying, and solution based conversation.
➡️ What it all comes back to - being heard.
We covered plenty but I’ll boil it down to this:
👉🏼 If you want to be heard and understood, to be validated and appreciated - shut the fuck up and do your best to genuinely hear, understand, and empathise with the other person.
You’ll be amazed at how it comes back. And feels more rewarding too.
Love you dad (pointless because he’s not on IG, but I know you guys wanna see that 😉)
For those wondering who Number One is... ah, wifey: @nardianorman obv. ❤️