The healthiest relationships are not necessarily the ones that look "happiest" to the naked eye. They aren't necessarily the ones where two people are always holding hands, giggling, dancing and singing, where nothing ever goes wrong. External perfection can easily mask internal devastation, disconnection and a quiet, unspoken desperation to be free, or at least alone.
The healthiest relationships are the honest ones, the ones that might not always look happy or carefree from the outside. The ones that might not fit society's image of what a relationship should or must look or feel like. Where two people tell the truth about today, and continually let go of their preconceived ideas about each other. Where the relationship is forever renewed in the furnace of honesty. Where they may be ruptures, misunderstandings, even intense feelings of doubt and disconnection, but there is a mutual willingness to face this seeking mess head on. To look- with open eyes- at the present rupture, and not turn away and cling to the past. To sit together in the midst of mutual shattered dreams and expectations and work to find a reconnection, here, now, today. Where relationship is seen as the ultimate yoga - an ongoing deepening adventure and rediscovery of each other, a constant meeting, not a future destination, fixed conclusion, point of arrival, or a convenient story to tell others during polite conversation.
As Eckhart Tolle reminds us, relationships aren't here to make you happy (for true happiness lies within) - they're here to makes us profoundly conscious .. #il❤️vejefffoster #sooobeautiful