The truth of any narcissist. They try to hurt and ruin the lives of others, and ultimately it's because they see someone who possesses qualities they don't possess and so try to tear them down to their level. My life was getting better and better before my ex narc because I worked hard at it to make a better future for myself, and she tried her damnedest to ruin my life because hers was so miserable. I'm moving forward just the same, though, making a better life for myself every day. I'm at a better place than I was this time last year, which was better than this time the year before, and I'll be even better off a year from now. Meanwhile, she's stuck in the same rut she's been stuck in the past five years. Worse, as over that time she's lost a lot. She's lost whatever meager friends she had, she's lost work, her ability to pursue her career of choice has drastically declined as she's aged, and she continues to drive great men out of her life while clinging to cheaters and freeloaders taking advantage of her and her family. It's a sad commentary on her personal life that in all likelihood, 99.9% of the people who wished her a happy birthday on her last birthday were people she only knows online, who she's likely never met or ever will meet, many of whom are creepy married men entertaining an internet flirtation with her, which she relishes, because as a narcissist, she enjoys any and all form of attention. Meanwhile, for my most recent birthday, I had wishes from childhood friends, newer friends, family, and even lovers past and more recent. I'm blessed with a life full of people who care about me and support me, and it's because I care for them and value each and every one of them. They mean something to me, and their concerns are my concerns. A narcissist has none of that, though, because they look at relationships as something they can get something out of. They only take and never give. And that's why, in the end, a narcissist lives a pitiful existence. So if you're hurting from the abuse inflicted on you by a narc, remember that you have something they'll never have or know: you have the capacity to love and be loved, and you can feel and know joy.