I see 3 kids go into the grocery store with their mom.
The kids are all complaining and whining about going grocery shopping.
Behind her I walk into the store alone, as I haven’t picked my daughter up yet.
As we go down the isles at the same time, I see her kids crying, complaining, whining.
They want Captain Crunch, and after a few minutes of a tantrum, she puts it in the cart.
They want sour keys, and instead of an argument, this time she just lets them put it in the cart right away.
I jump to a judgement, she is reinforcing their behaviour, why would she give in so easy?
I finish my childless grocery trip with ease and make it back to the checkout.
I am behind this mom and kids in line.
The kids, still misbehaving, complaining, whining.
Me, still silently judging and comparing.
Finally I look at the mom. She looks worn out and exhausted.
I look at the mom and see that though her kids are well dressed and put together, her hair is messy and her clothes look old and worn.
I start to see the grace that she is using with her kids, how she is keeping her cool even amidst the complaining.
I see that she has 2 kids pulling on her and one kid crying and I wonder if I would be that calm in that situation.
I realize that she has no help, she is here alone with three kids and I don’t even want to go grocery shopping with one.
Quickly, I realize how judgemental I have been.
What puts me in any place to judge another mom. I don’t know her story, I don’t know what her day has been like or even what her year has been like.
I end up offering a quick smile to her as she loads her cart and leaves the store.
Although our interaction was small, it has stuck with me.
Since this time, when I catch myself making a silent judgement, I try to stop it in it’s tracks.
Instead of judging I am trying to look at the situation from a different perspective.
Understanding that we all have a unique story, and when we see one glimpse of someones day that is all we are seeing.
I share this story because this village and this page is built around non-judgemental support.
Share in the comments how you choose to be intentionally non-judgemental to others in your life!!