It’s amazing how different an experience can be depending on how we show up.
Do you show up making assumptions or do you show up asking questions?
Assumptions are accepting without proof leaving room for misunderstanding, error and pain.
Asking questions opens up space for healthy dialogue, clarity and allowing TRUTH to unfold.
Most people desire connection, to be seen and to be heard. In my experience, I am better heard and received when I ask questions.
When calling someone, I ask “Did I catch you at a good time?” When I ask this, the conversations have been much more loving. I am showing that I value the person, I am conscious of what they may be doing and want to make sure they are open to receive.
Most times, I get a “YES!” however, there have been other times I heard, “no, can I call you back in 10 minutes?” The difference in how I was received was like night and day compared to when I would call and just start talking the second someone said “hello”. It was as if I just verbally vomited on them…only to realize they are at lunch with a friend and only answered to make sure I was ok. I had just purged for 5 minutes, not allowing them to ask if they could call me back when they were able to actually listen, talk and be present with me.
I would feel stupid and worse about myself. Asking questions has improved all my relationships…..