Three seemingly short years ago, I hit the button and published my first ever blog post, and Stories About Autism was born... As I look back over what I wrote back then it’s amazing to see how much has changed for the boys, our family, and our lives as a whole.
Since 2015, Jude is in a much happier place. His meltdowns are way less frequent, much less intense. His body used to be covered in bruises and now is mainly bruise free!
School was a difficult place for Jude to be. Being so anxious around the other children and noise sensitive led to many challenging days. But for the last two years he has finally settled in, taking part more and more, and starting to interact with his classmates as well.
He is also melatonin free and sleeping through the night, which has made a huge difference to his mood. The sleepless nights we used to endure are a thing of the past, and we are all much happier because of it!! Back in 2015 Tommy was due to start school but we chose to defer for a year, give him more time to be ready. We had no idea where to send him, but the right option was under our nose the whole time, and two years ago he joined Jude at his school. Despite our fears he has loved it there since day one, and it’s a joy to see.
The words haven’t flowed yet like I thought they would for Tommy, but he is making progress, and developing in other ways each and every day.
Probably the biggest change since I started writing is the fact that me and their mum are no longer together. For over two years now we have been apart, which surprisingly has had a real positive effect on both Tommy and Jude.
Being apart means two houses, and we chose to look after one boy each, swapping every couple of days. Jude has always struggled being around Tommy, and both boys need 1-1 care. So it has actually made life easier for both of them (especially Jude) and I’m sure is one of the reasons they are both doing so well.
Personally it’s taken some getting used to. Being a full-time single parent whilst trying to juggle work and any attempt at a social life for me has been a real challenge, but has meant I’ve had to grow just as much as the boys have.
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