This is us in 2007 on our probably third time visiting friends in Seattle that year. It's funny to see this photo now because I always wondered what we did with all that time before we had kids. All of my evenings and weekends to myself or with my guy - to do whatever, whenever. Spontaneous outings and unplanned road trips. No responsibilities other than earning to keep a roof over our head and fancy shoes in the closet. Oh and all those elaborate fantasies of a life together. Six months after having our daughter we found ourselves severely disconnected, and well, suffice to say alone time and date nights were a distant memory. We created an acceptance of nothing but our parenting gig. Sitting in our kitchen at 10PM last night with our mugs of hot cocoa. We talked. An actual real conversation without having to be about the kids. It was nice. We enjoyed each other's company. And for that moment. We chose each other. We learned that striving for unrealistic parenting goals becomes a vehicle for exhaustion and disengagement. We promised each other that we will try asking for help and trusting people more often when it comes to watching our kids so we can spend much time as a couple one on one. We are not without struggles, but I do know from this challenge we learned how to not get lost, lose touch, forget, or ignore the space we share, and for that, I will patiently wait for whatever goodness the Universe chooses to bring our way.