There is a podcast I love, a This American Life podcast (#339) called Break Up. (go here: https://www.thisamericanlife.org/radio-archives/episode/339/break-up/) It’s really good, so I suggest you give it a listen. You’ll especially love Puppy Boy.
I’ve listened to it 4 times in the last few years. Partly, it’s because after going through a breakup, it’s cathartic to have all the mixed (and often embarrassing) feelings validated. Also partly, I love that Phil Collins talks openly about his own heart break. And mostly, because it’s beautiful and funny and so relatable.
They talk about breakups. Wallowing. Divorce. The collaborative divorce process. Feeling pathetic…and liking it.
My favorite moment comes when Starlee says (To Phil Collins) … I felt so much for him when I was with him. And the only way to still feel like that strongly about something is to not let it go. I would love to be the person who was just like, he meant nothing to me. But instead, I'm the person who's like, OK, I'm going to write a break-up song and play it over the airwaves. And I've like lost all my cool.
Phil Collins: Well, I don't see it like that. No. You're just addressing something you need to address. And this is getting-- amongst other things-- getting it out of your system.
I just want to say, to you, my IG pals, that I used IG in the way Starlee writes a torch song for her ex love. I needed to address my heartbreak via pictures and words. It was a heartbreak like no other, and was particularly terrible. And I guess I just want to say thank you for the nice things you’ve said to me in person, or in messages. Thanks for letting me emote – I’ve never done that after a breakup before, not like this. It felt necessary and good to be vulnerable about it, and it really helped me move forward. And move forward I have, in a really healthy way.
Life is pretty good. You’re all pretty good. Phil Collins is, of course, awesome. #thisamericanlife #bisbest #rainbowride #totallycooltobeuncool