Think of where we can be as a society if we choose to use our words and our experiences to build each other up rather than tear each other down. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
These past two months have been so humbling. I have seen how deep-rooted our confidence issues truly are as women. In the group I’m part of, I’ve seen women that have gotten implants who I thought were perfect beforehand. Without thinking, I Initially made comments like, “wow! Why did you get surgery in the first place?” While my intentions were pure and I meant this as a compliment, I now understand how this may come across as hurtful. We all did it for similar reasons. We all saw ourselves as not good enough, and we just wanted to feel confident in our own skin. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Similarly, when I posted on my surgery day, I got hundreds of sweet comments, but I also got a handful of people commenting about how young I look. I am choosing to see this in a positive light—that people are saddened by what society does to us, and what I did to my body at such a young age—but think about how this may come across. I even had someone I don’t know seek out my personal page and comment to ask how old I am and what age I was when I got surgery. How is this relevant? We get ridiculed enough in our daily lives, by society’s depiction of beauty and by the medical field. As women, we should not go out of our way to tear each other down further, especially when we are fighting the same battle, even if it takes a different form for each of us. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Social media can be a beautiful thing when we ban together and I’ve had the privilege of meeting many beautiful souls through this experience. Also, let me clarify that I know I’m choosing to put myself out there, and therefore I’m opening myself up to the possibility of criticism. I’m fine with this if it means I’m helping even one woman in the process. I just hope we can remember to be kind to one another, and to choose our words wisely. It’s not hard, and it can truly make all the difference.