I firmly believe that "Empowered PEOPLE empower people". There is so much division projected in the media that most of us have started to believe what we see on social sites and the television. So much so that we have deemed this to be fact and have succumbed to the mentality that "it is just the way the world is now days". This mindset has aided in us giving up on trying to "be the change that we want to see in the world". As a young girl I was filled with ambition, vivid dreams and the head strong will power that I was going to use to accomplish everything that I had set my mind to. Fast forward 15 years. I was 22 and had allowed myself to become victim to the dark perverse version of "Love" that the world had sold me on. Mental, verbal, physical abuse and complete spiritual exhaustion. I blamed a man for my self inflicted pain. I thought that I had lost myself in him, I believed that HE had stripped away all of my good and threw it back in my face mutilated and ripped to shreds. I blamed a man.
I was wrong. I blamed a man for doing all of the things that I LET him do. I ALLOWED him to come back. He didn't ask for my whole soul. He never requested me to throw my entire being into loving him. But I did. I did that. Not him. He only went as far as I let him and I AM RESPONSIBLE for allowing my pain to go on for so long. Fast forward a few months after my breakup...
I was feeling EMPOWERED.
I had STOPPED making excuses for bad behavior and I had successfully stopped ALLOWING myself to be mistreated. But then I realized - now that he was gone and I was no longer being abused, I was forced to see that I was responsible. Staring in the mirror was HARD. What had I allowed myself to become? To this day I struggle. I am still unboxing some suppressed issues. But it is MY RESPONSIBILITY to fix it. I dont get to just give up because "it is what it is" now. No. I refuse. Pointing the finger at someone else only works for so long before they are no where to be found but you are still being held back by the past. Pull it together and fix YOUR problems. Empower yourself today so that you can Empower someone else tomorrow.🖤