Empaths and highly sensitive people have a tendency to be people pleasers and over givers. This extends beyond family and friendships to our everyday interactions. The taxi driver, the lady at the bank, your hair stylist, people at school and work - even people you don’t speak to, like the person behind you in line at the grocery store. Are you constantly worrying about their feelings, what they might think of your behaviour, anticipating their unspoken needs, trying to bring people up if they seem down, trying to lighten the mood?
Being kind is the empath way, but constantly doing all the emotional lifting for those around you isn’t kindness - to yourself, or others. Consistently making these daily, unnecessary emotional withdrawals will drain you over time and leave you emotionally and (yes) physically spent. The constant drain of being givers can place an enormous amount of stress on us. Stress affects our adrenal system. Then we wonder why we feel so depleted.
Energetic boundaries are necessary.
This looks like: -shifting our primary focus from external (others) to internal (ourselves)
-learning to love and please ourselves rather than seeking validation through helping others -getting comfortable with “no”
-not making ourselves smaller to make others comfortable -giving up the need to justify ourselves to others
In the words of @maryamhasnaa, we must fill our own cup and then give to others from the overflow, rather than continually draining ourselves.