Personally, I think being Muslim and growing up in a culture that tells you at a young age that “boys always get away with things” adds to this rape culture we see so much. That in order to keep our self in tact, we should dress modest, we should do what we can to not entice a man. That men have no willpower like women do and that’s why the burden is on us. To keep quiet about what happened otherwise no one will want you or think you’re just being dramatic.
It doesn’t matter if you’re fully covered, if you look down while someone catcalls you or if you push a hand away gently to show you’re not interested. I’ve still been victim to sexual harassment, assault and abuse from my young teenage years to early adulthood life. I’ve gone through life thinking I was always at fault. If I didn’t do this... maybe he wouldn’t have come at me like that. Maybe if I didn’t dress like that he wouldn’t objectify me... if I post a sexy picture I deserved those vulgar comments or unwanted snaps. If I acted like more of a prude this mess wouldn’t have happened. I’ve had men tell me “It’s not a big deal. It happens to lots of women. Shake it off.” And that right there is the scary part. *It happens to a lot of women.* And why do we keep treating it like it’s the norm? This hashtag won’t change the world overnight but it might shine light on how many women you know in your life that have had something happen to them. Maybe it’ll change how you treat them. Instead of just being a statistic or a number, here I am.