Everyone likes to ask, "How are you today?"
Rarely does someone like it when you tell them the truth.
My least favorite response to hear, "Oh, I'm so sorry". Look, hospice is what it is & death is normal (100% mortality rate folks - can't avoid that one!). That doesn't make it any less scary for my dad or the experience of being a caregiver much easier. It gives you burnt fucking waffles. It puts you over a month behind in work because by the end of the day you can barely keep your eyes open anymore & your heart just isn't connected. It definitely puts self care on the back burner. It has you researching & listening to physicians podcasts for hospice & palliative care and what to expect in final weeks or days.
It hardens you & softens you all at once. & then, you put another Eggo in the toaster & try again.
FYI, when I ask it - I mean it.
So, how are you today?
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